Life can be challenging...
At times we can lose sight of the things that really matter. The things that carry significance in our lives will influence everything we touch. Often we find ourselves contemplating what is really important in life. Follow me on my journey as I ponder on happiness, success, suffering and living a life with meaning.
| h a p p i n e s s |
So… what is happiness? Is it a destination? Is it feeling good all the time? Is it getting what you want, when you want it and how you want it? Sure, maybe to some. Happiness is different to different people. To me, happiness is a form of contentment; a conscious choice to make the best of everything at any given moment. Happiness is not a result of something in the outside world, but is something that comes from within yourself. Happiness is all yours - it cannot be taken from you. That's the beauty of it.
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Success does not happen by accident. It comes from hard work, persistence, endurance, humility, sacrifice, focus and dedication. Because every lesson is built on failure, then success must be the natural consequence of failure. Success means to accomplish. I have accomplished many things in life, and will continue to accomplish. Every goal I set and meet is success. Every day my daughter uses her manners I consider it a "mommy" success. Everyday I endure and overcome my depression is success. Not seeing my best friend for months and picking up where we left off when we do is success. Being able to provide a roof over my child and clothes on her back is success. Success, to me, is relative… it's in the little things as well as the big things. It's in the ups and downs, accomplishments and failures, strengths and opportunities. I will know success when I am able to appreciate all these things in the moment and do so without expectation, judgement or comparison.
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We all suffer. Suffering plays a significant role in life. I consider suffering as a highway to strength, compassion, wisdom and character. Suffering is only part of your story; a means to share your testimony. Suffering allows you to empathize, and when others are suffering, gives you the ability to help them find comfort, peace and hope as they change and find healing. Suffering forces us to live with our scars. It forces us to dig deep down in our hearts and souls to find the strength to carry on. It's not always easy, but it's worth it. If not for yourself, then for someone else.
"RECOVERING FROM SUFFERING IS NOT LIKE RECOVERING FROM A DISEASE. MANY PEOPLE DON’T COME OUT HEALED; THEY COME OUT DIFFERENT" | DAVID BROOKS
Brooks, D. (2014, April 7). What Suffering Does. New York Times. Retrieved from: https://www.nytimes.com/2014/04/08/opinion/brooks-what-suffering-does.html
| w a t c h & l i s t e n |
This rendition of "Imagine" by Pentatonix touches my heart. It shows the vulnerability of simply being human. We are all different, and we are all significant.
| M E A N I N G |
To say that life is meaningful is to live each day with intentional purpose. This is achieved with self-reflection, humility, faith, love and acceptance. You are the only person that can give your life meaning, and that meaning may be different today than it was a year ago, or even what it will be in 10 years. I've always known that I wanted to be a nurse; it is my calling. However, my life had a different meaning 10 years ago (when I wasn't a mommy) versus today. Every living thing serves a purpose and while we may see its meaning, it is significant in making the world go round. Every decision we make impacts someone or something in one way or another. Life is just that, life.
| c o n c l u s i o n |
Collectively, happiness, success, suffering and living life with meaning are only contributors to what makes your life significant and worth living. However, all of these things would be nothing without love, kindness, compassion, empathy, understanding and forgiveness. Additionally, life wouldn't be the same without our children, family, friends, pets and all things living. Being able to enjoy the good times with those that we love and care about, and the ability to lean on each other during the hard times, is only a portion of what it means to live life to its fullest. We are here to learn, teach, serve and help each other through this thing we call life.