DISCIPLINE FROM 7-14 YEARS OF AGE: Developing the feeling life with social and emotional skills.
understanding self and others
Behaviour needs to be learned and taught. Reminders are better than threats. Repetition is the key to consolidating new information and skills.
Always assume skills deficit first instead of assuming willfull non compliance. This way you will parent from a space of compassion as opposed to a space of frustration and anger. The latter will only illicit fear. No one can learn in a state of fear. It is biologically improbable.
Correction is better than punishment. Think of it as being part of a team instead of imposing a hierarchy and authoritarianism. Children learn skills through teaching not imposed unrelated consequences. Repetition is key and role-playing is helpful. Using life's teachable moments are golden opportunities. As a result, this will force you to be present and notice as life unfolds in front of your very eyes. If you are distracted, lost in your head, on your devices, you will miss out on the multiple opportunities that present themselves throughout the day.
Parental presence and self-awareness are key elements to a child's wellbeing.
To help delay gratification, timing is important. You can start using natural consequences at this age. Prior to this age, children have no understanding of cause and effect. This is why the 0-7 strategies do not involve consequences. The children would not understand them anyways. It may stop the undesirable behaviour but it does not teach them the alternative.
The concept of independence is about doing what’s right on your own it is not about doing your own thing.