Recognizing & Revising Self-Talk Patterns
My inner critic is more difficult to deal with when I'm dealing with self-confidence. The Inner Critic judges self, blames self, complains about self, and demeans self. Its positive intention is to protect self from failure, but the actual result is either a partial attempt or no attempt at all.At certain times in school, i tend to be unsure of things i do or not confident enough. For example, when its time for exams, i prepare myself well. But on exam day, i get all jittery and nervous, and when the test is handed to me, it's like my mind goes blank. So during the test, i procrastinated time so i could calm down and get my thoughts together. As time progressed, i finally got my thoughts together, but it was too late. when I walked out of that exam, i knew i didn't too well. to fix that situation, i did some self-evaluating and looked at myself in the mirror. From that day on, i started believing in myself. every time i took an exam, i prayed and MOTIVATED myself. in order for me to succeed, i must believe in myself and EVERYTHING i do. if i don't BELIEVE in myself, then who will?
When dealing wiTH my INNER DEFENDER, I TRY TO DEFEND MYSELF AND BLAME OTHERS FOR MY UNWANTED RESULTS.The Inner Defender judges others, then blames them before self-assessment takes place. Once blaming an external takes place, complaining about the external and demeaning the external replaces problem-solving and escape occurs. Its positive intention seems to be fending off criticism and punishment from others. a perfect example Of this would be last semester when i took calculus i. a had a foreIGN professor. her name was MS. ALESKEVA. ON THE FIRST DAY OF CLASS, I KNEW I WAS GOING TO HAVE A HARD TIME IN THAT CLASS BECAUSE I COULDN'T UNDERSTAND A WORD SHE SAID. THROUGHOUT THE SEMESTER I STRUGGLED IN THAT CLASS. when final grades came out, i was disappointed at my final grade for my calculus class. inside of me, i blamed my teacher because i didn't understand anything she said all semester. i COULDN'T be too mad at her because i could of gotten outside help from others. I also could have studied more diligently and met with her one-on-one in her office hours.
my inner guide comes out best after I HAVE taken an exam. Our inner guide tells us the absolute truth and allows us to be more conscious of reality, other people, and ourselves. my goal is to get to do better on each exam I take. if I get a grade that I'm not satisfied with, I gather myself TOGETHER and think about what I could of done to get a better or more satisfying grade. MANY THOUGHTS GO THROUGH MY HEAD SUCH AS, SHOULD I HAVE STUDIED HARDER? should I have went to my professor hour office to receive more help? Now that I have thought of ways to actually do better, I will apply it for my upcoming exams.
For the most part, I stuck to my schedule very well. Before making a daily or weekly schedule, I would just live each day in the moment. Whatever came to my mind to do, I would do. But since coming to college, I had to make some adjustments. Last semester I didn't have a daily schedule so I just was on the go. That didn't work because I would find myself doing everything except my school work. This semester I created a schedule and it's been working for me. I find myself more organized and less stressed! This semester I have been managing my time much better than last semester.
For this experiment, I had to find 3 different methods of studying. The three methods were highlighting my reading, using flashcards, and studying with my peers. I conducted this experiment each time studied.
After trying out different ways to study, I found that studying with my peers effects my way of preparing for an exam the most. We studied together the night before and the next we took the exam. I felt ready and confident about the exam. They really motivated me to do really good on the exam. The next day we got our results back and I made an A! Ever since then, I've made A's on the rest of my exams in that class. I think I'm going to stick to that studying method.