SHADOW AND REAL: In any marriage a couple belong to each other. They are one. In many marriages the couple are one flesh and one spirit. In other marriages the marriage is a shell. They live separate lives and do not really have a marriage in spirit and in truth. Sure they are married and one according to the law. But according to the spirit they live in separation. What we are in the spirit is our real self. What we are in the law is the self of externality - the false self that is a shadow of the real. Our real self is who we are in relation to God. In the Spirit as distinct from the law, you and our Father are one.
From the novel Patmos.
"There is only one battle."
"One?" I asked, curious.
His eyes flashed, and he looked straight at me. "Union or separation," he said definitively. …
I knew to the core of my soul that we had arrived at the heart of everything. I could see it in his face and in the way he held his head. I was not sure what he meant by union or separation, but it was clear that to him this was the crosshairs of the cosmos. …
"The truth of all truths: Jesus. Jesus in his Father and us in him. Without Jesus, what do you have?"
"Not much, I reckon. Just ourselves."
"Ourselves and ideas of separation from God," St. John declared in his most authoritative apostolic tone. "Listen, young Aidan."
And as I did, I felt that my world was about to be shattered. "The assumption of separation is the great darkness." (Patmos, page. 91)