Kia Ora Koutou
Life happens. Sometimes what happens in life is ‘crap’. How one deals with the crappy things can make you stronger, but sometimes if it is relentless it can wear you down. Bullying is a curse and I would be telling you lies if I said it does not exist- it does. So what do you do? Tell someone. I cannot deal with stuff if I do not know, none of us can. There is a line of ‘telling’ and along that line people put things in place but sometimes despite the best efforts those interventions do not work. What stops students telling? Fear of retribution more often than not. But as I said to one student recently- you can tell and deal with the immediacy of that because that will end, or you can continue to live everyday afraid- which is better? She chose the former.
Basically- do we deal with Bullying? Yes- when you tell us. Our students also need to be brave enough to tell, and they also need to be brave enough to tell bullies to cut it out. Doing nothing tells bullies it is okay, gives them power they do not deserve. Dealing with bullies is not always about punishing either- it is about understanding what is right and appropriate because we all have to walk this planet together but that does not mean it has to be on the same side of the road all the time or holding hands.
Who is the coolest person you know? How about aiming to be the best person. Anyone can seem cool. Wear the right clothes, drive the right cars, take the right vacations, carefully craft social media updates ... Seeming cool is easy.
Actually, being cool is anything but. I am not cool. (I am as average as they come.) But I do know some cool people. Here are some things that make them cool.
Cool people do nice things, just because they can. Cool people do not think they are cool.
Social media makes it easy to do your own public relations. You can blow your own horn, bask in the glow of your insights and accomplishments ... With a little time and effort, you can seem larger than life.
Cool people do not. They know their success is based on hard work, persistence, and execution, but they also recognize that key mentors, great employees, and a huge dose of luck also play a part in their success.
That is why they are humble. That is why they ask questions. That is why they seek advice. That is why they recognize and praise others.
They do not focus on highlighting how far they have come -- because they're too busy thinking about how far they still want to go.
Cool people know ‘You’ are your business. Your business is your life, just like your life is your business -- which is also true for family, friends, and interests -- so there is no separation, because all those things make you who you are.
Most of us are nice, especially when we are expected to be. Cool people are nice even when no one would expect them to be. Not because they have to. Just because they can.
Cool people find happiness in the success of other people. Every great entrepreneur answers the question, "Can you make the choice that your happiness will come from the success of others?" with a resounding "Yes! ‘- So does every cool person I know. They enjoy personal achievements, but they really enjoy seeing other people succeed.
Have a safe weekend.
Congratulations to Chelsea Hawkes (Year 11) and Charlie Matthews (Year 12) for their song 'Smooth Sailing' entered in this year's Rock Quest. This won best lyrics overall at this event (pictured above).
Sheila Winn National Shakespeare Finals
Congratulations to the Senior College team who competed at the National Finals in Wellington this weekend. Between Thursday and Monday the students attended a number of workshops and performing scenes. A great experience for all.
Whanganui Collegiate Fixture
On Tuesday we welcomed teams from Whanganui Collegiate to St Matthew's for our annual fixture. The results are as follows:
Junior A Netball 23-20 SMS
Senior A Netball 44-26 Collegiate
Junior Hockey 4-3 SMS
First XI Hockey 2-1 SMS
First XI Football 3-1 SMS
Many thanks to Rachel Shearing, Maureen Ingham and Emily Draper for their organisation of this event.
Last weekend a choir reunion was held to coincide with the reunion of other years. Mrs van Deventer really wanted to bring the students of the last 20 years together and 45 members joined the current Viva Camerata on stage.