One of the most debatable topics is whether or not same sex marriage should be legal. Some people believe that marriage was only meant for one man and one woman, but marriage between two people, whether they are of the same sex or not should always be legal, it is a human right. The fourteenth amendment states that "No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privilege or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life, liberty, or property" and by not allowing a person to marry someone of the same sex it is depriving them of their liberty and their new life together. Not only is marriage a right that should be given to all people, but provides benefits as well as the emotional and psychological well-being.
The legalization of marriage between same sex couples is very important for several reasons, one of the reasons being the benefits that couples are given once they're married. There are over 1,000 benefits from being married and each of them are very important in their own way, some examples are filing joint tax returns, making medical decisions for one another, inheritances, 401k, and insurance policies, but these are just a few of the many that are given (Driscoll and Stingl). All of these benefits are very important for several reasons, but one of the most important is the benefit of hospital visitation. Hospital visitation allows a person to visit their partner while they're in the hospital and not having this benefit affected one family greatly in February of 2007. Same-sex couple, Janice Langbehn and Lisa Pond were vacationing in Florida with their three kids when Lisa suddenly suffered an aneurysm. Janice and their three kids weren't legally recognized as Lisa's family which meant that the nurses and doctors couldn't allow them to see her. Later, while they were still trying to convince the hospital administration to let them see her Lisa slipped into a coma and died (Riou). The hospital not recognizing Janice and their three kids as Lisa's family took away their right of being able to say a last heartfelt goodbye to their mother, which shows how one benefit can not only affect the couple, but their family.
Not only is there benefits that come from marriage for same-sex couples, but there is also an increase in psychological and emotional well-being. Since mostly everyone is given the right to marry except for same-same couples it causes them to feel discriminated against (Pearson). "What we found is the legal benefit of marriage leads to an emotional benefit of security"(Kuhr 1) this was said by Darren R. Spedale a researcher who spent two years researching same sex couples. A couple named Stuart Gaffney and John Lewis said after the issuing of marriage licenses for gays they experienced being treated equally for the first time in their lives. In addition the couple said "we literally felt years of shame lifting with the realization that now we were being treated as equals" (Kuhr 1). Not only does this couple show how they're emotional well being improved, but another couple also experienced the feeling of being "equal" once given the right of marriage. Couple, Chucks Colbert and Troy Golladay said they experienced "a sense of security and place that [they] didn't have..."(Kuhr 1) once given the right of marriage. Although the way they felt after given the right of marriage is important it's also very important to know how they're emotional well being was before. Colbert said that not being able to marry his long term partner caused him emotional and psychological problems "It was chewing me up inside... I was very sluggish. I battled with either depression or seasonal affective disorder...it was just poisonous" (Kuhr 1). The way Colbert had battled with depression before being able to marry shows how much it affects same-sex couples to not be given the right of marriage.
How to support same-sex marriage
It is very important to see the ways that allowing marriage to all couples can affect them. Not only does marriage provide benefits that are needed, but it also gives couples emotional and psychological well being. There are many ways to help same-sex couples have marriage equality whether it is researching to learn more or getting involved. There are many places that people could go to research same-sex marriages one of the best type of websites to research would be one with personal experiences from real same-sex couples today. People could also research Freedom to Marry which is an organization that helped legalize same-sex marriage in 2015. If a person would want to do more than research the topic they could get involved in many organizations or events such as gay pride events, NCLR (National Center for Lesbian Rights), GLAD(Gay and Lesbian advocates and defenders), etc. These are just a few ways to get more involved in marriage equality, but it is also important to know that just because the traditional image of marriage is one man and one woman it doesn't mean that a same-sex couple shouldn't have the same marital rights.