Experiences in America make Amir independent and more selfless. He finds it easier to help others because their problems make him think of his past and how he needed someone to help him out when he needed. "How could I, of all people, chastise someone for their past?"(page 165). He becomes understanding of the peoples situations. While he helps others, he begins to have no one to lean on but himself. "Baba couldnt show me the way anymore; and I'd have to find it on my own."(Page 174). When Baba left him, it made him want to be the only one carrying his weight. Amir mentally grows up while learning to serve others even when no one is serving him.