WHAT ARE FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS AND HOW DO THEY WORK?
Family Constellations are an ideal way to look at the underlying dynamics of any given conflict situation, - regardless of whether this conflict is of personal or professional nature -, and then take appropriate steps toward a heartfelt resolution.
Workshop participants attend a closed circle of people who all show up with their own issue(s). Whoever wants to look at an issue selects so called representatives to stand in for the people and/or circumstances that are part of the conflict. These representatives are encouraged to tune into their 'role' as a representative (although this is not role-play at all), and simply report what is going on in their bodies; any thoughts or hunches that are coming up for the representatives will be important for the progress of the constellation.
The workshop facilitator will check in with every representative to find out how he or she feels in relation to the other representative(s). Feelings and thoughts give clues as to who is more or less drawn to whom and depending on what surfaces in the constellation, the representatives are asked to then carefully follow their instincts, e.g. make a move towards or away from other representatives.
What surfaces is a reflection of a deeper story and/or truth that has been part of the family system - by making it visible, entanglements and misunderstandings can be acknowledged, and let go of. This process has the potential of freeing up a lot of energy and space for moving into a new direction in one's life, and leaving past hurt, however real or imagined, behind.
WHAT IF I AM RATHER PRIVATE AND DON'T WANT THE WHOLE WORLD TO KNOW ABOUT MY ISSUES?
If one does not want to reveal any personal facts regarding their personal or professional life, the work can be done 'blindly'. This means that only the workshop facilitator knows about the conflict and then suggests whom to pick as representatives. It is truly mind-blowing how accurately the representatives will still be able to visually represent the underlying dynamics in a family, relationship, business etc. without having heard any of the facts.
The other thing is that the person who wants to set up a constellation can stay out of it. How so? Well, once they have stated their issue, they will pick representatives including one to stand in for themselves. This is partially done to protect the inquirer from emotional overwhelm; a representative for the inquirer may also show less resistance to taking certain steps towards or away from another representative because there is no attachment to the story or a particular outcome.
WHAT ELSE DO I NEED TO KNOW?
Nothing! The whole point of this work is to stay out of your head and drop into your heart. We are all capable of doing just that. Be open and curious, set an intention in regards to what it is you want to shift in your life.
MY BACKGROUND IN FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS
I have been involved in Family Constellations since 2006. I did two years of training in Family Constellations and one additional year of training that addressed body-focused trauma resolution, specifically. Over the years I have attended countless family constellation workshops with different facilitators.