At some point in every girl's lifetime, she dreams of having that best friend. You know that one that she can share all of her firsts with, confide all of her secrets to and make blood pacts with. The best friend is the one that we turn to not only in good times but when our back is against the wall and we need some guidance. Because we value the opinions of our best friend and seek them out for encouragement, we must know and understand what God says about creating that bond.
I once knew a girl that claimed everybody as her "best friend". When God says to acknowledge Him in all our ways, He also meant that concerning our friendships. The first thing we should know is that there are different levels of friendship and its equally important to know the specific obligations and privileges of each of them.
Discerning the Four Levels of Friendship
The acquaintance is the one who we have infrequent or rare communication with. Each time someone new is brought into your life, consider it designed by God for a particular purpose. The acquaintance level is the getting to know you stage. It is at this level that we must use wisdom and discernment.
Seek God Concerning Friendships
The casual friend is someone we may see from time to time. There will be some common interests and concerns. She may be that one we want to include in a girls movie night or when our schedules allow us to. We probably wouldn't go as far as cancelling previous plans to see a casual friend. Different people bring different things to our lives and even the casual friend adds some value to it.
Let God Choose Your Friends.
In the casual friendship, the bond doesn't usually extend beyond the surface. But the close friendship consists of oneness in spirits, where we have the same aspirations. Close friends share the responsibility of admonishing and encouraging each other. They both commit to ventures that will prepare them for their goals.
Those that reject Christ WILL Reject You.
In this level of friendship, we both commit to invest in each others goals. We consent to help each other grow spiritually. The friendship is a trusting one. Each person has the freedom to correct the other using discernment to root out the causes and the wisdom to devise a solution. This level of friendship definitely requires honesty, humility and discretion from both parties.
Scriptures Concerning Friendship
Proverbs 27:17 (NLT) "As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend."
Proverbs 22:24-25 (NLT) "Don't befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul."
Proverbs 18:24 (NLT) "There are "friends" who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother."
Proverbs 13:20 (NLT) "Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble."
Proverbs 16:28 (NLT) "A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends."
Proverbs 17:17 (NLT) "A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need."