In this morning's PD session, our new Headmaster, Shane Kidwell, challenged us to Dare Greatly and become a daring school. He challenged us to rediscover and grapple with who we really are. He challenged us to read Will Zungu's article, "Our Schools Are The Breeding Ground Of Racism In South Africa" and reflect on how inclusive we are. Certainly, there are difficult issues to tackle, head on.
Furthermore, we were challenged to be a Daring School. Shane shared the Four Pillars of Courage that Brené Brown asserts define a Daring School. He challenged us to engage in this process and to become vulnerable with each other.
Vulnerability: facing risk, uncertainty, and emotional exposure with courage and clarity.
Clarity of Values: identifying and practicing the beliefs that we hold most important.
Trust: deepening connections in relationships and teams based on the seven elements of trust.
Rising Skills: learning and growing from the failures, setbacks, and disappointments that are inevitable when we are brave with our lives.
Lastly, the Headmaster asked us to trust deeply. That as we interact with each other over difficult issues, that we would strive for deepening connections in relationships based on the seven elements of trust.
The Seven Elements of Trust
Trust each other
B.R.A.V.I.N.G in depth
Boundaries: Boundaries are HUGE. In a nutshell, they help us let the good stuff in and keep the bad stuff out—“stuff” being people, experiences, information, emotional states, and more. This is a meaty topic and something we explore in more depth in the Be Your Own Hero course.
Reliability: Doing what we say we’re going to do, when we say we’re going to do it. Being aware of our strengths and limitations and acting accordingly.
Accountability: Taking ownership for our behaviour, including making amends when we make mistakes
Vault: This is similar to boundaries but important enough to warrant its own category. In Rising Strong, Brené describes this as not sharing experiences that aren’t ours to share. In other words, it’s a combination of refraining from gossip, demonstrating empathy for other people, and not getting sucked into drama-driven situations.
Integrity: When our actions match our words and when we practice our values rather than just profess them. In Rising Strong, Brené also includes “choosing courage over comfort.”
Non-Judgement: Being able to ask for what we need and talk about how we feel without being judged (and vice versa for other people).
Generosity: Extending the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words and actions of others. I borrow the phrase “assuming the best” from Tara Swiger to remind me of this.