I think about stories like this one, from a woman in Florida, who told us:
"I was from a broken family. Divorce, death, and dysfunction. I was certain God didn't mean for me to have children. So, when God started our family, I was at once humbled and quite terrified. I promised God I would raise my child to know Him. But I had no idea how to do that.
My husband was from a stable moral family. They prayed at meals and no one divorced or broke the law, but his parents were busy working. They didn't have a relationship with God to share with him. So, when he became a father, my husband said to me, "help me to be present. Help me to do this job well."
I knew I could not help him. I knew I did not have the tools. And I knew my hard heart would fail us both. I prayed and repented to the Lord on my face. I was broken and convicted about not repeating the sinful cycles of my family. So I dragged my baby right to church each week and asked the older women, "How do I do this?"
We have a great church, with great elders, and my pastor introduced us to Visionary Parenting. It was such a gift from the Father, and a nod, as if to say, "You'll be okay. I have provided the tools. Just give your heart to me."
That started us down a lot of changes in our lives. It's not easy, and I don't do it well, but God gives new grace each day, and my kids are all thriving. And God's way is allowing my husband to be present in their lives. I am so grateful."