What You'll Find on This Page
- You're Getting Married (Introduction)
- Planning Your Wedding Ceremony
- Our Services & Pricing
- Links to Reviews, Awards, and Photo Galleries
- About Us
- Frequently Asked Questions
- Secure Client Portal Login
You're Getting Married
You are about to take the first steps in a lifelong journey together, and your wedding ceremony and reception will be events you'll never forget. A professionally crafted ceremony that tells your story and reflects your ideals and values is going to have all your guests raving about the ceremony as much as they gush about that fantastic chocolate fountain at the dessert bar. Reverend Gary has a reputation for making couples very comfortable and bringing both humor and deep meaning to their ceremonies.
We had so many compliments on how beautiful our ceremony was and would highly recommend him to others. We will always be very thankful to Reverend Gary for making our wedding day perfect!
—Laurie & Eric
Sometimes couples get lost in the "party planning" aspect of a wedding. There’s so much to decide—from choosing a venue to picking flowers, music, and photo packages. Of course, these things take a lot of time and attention. You want the best photographer and videographer that you can afford. You want the most beautiful floral arrangements and favors that your budget will allow. In the midst of all your wedding planning, it’s important to remember that no matter how long your stretch limo is or how many servers will be passing out hors d'oeuvres, the wedding ceremony is the reason it’s all happening. Reverend Gary is a professional, ordained wedding officiant with the experience and qualifications to give you the very best service at an affordable price, delivering a completely personalized ceremony that celebrates your love story!
Couples now have more options in designing their ceremonies than ever before. If they're opting not to get married in a house of worship, they can choose a special site for their wedding, or have the ceremony right at the reception venue. They have opportunities never before available at traditional church weddings.
—Reverend Gary Gudzik
The most important thing to remember when planning your ceremony is to communicate your thoughts and desires to your officiant! As with all things wedding related, it’s putting in the work and planning ahead of time that will make the big day run smoothly. Ask questions. Express your ideas. You will be Reverend Gary's primary source for all the little things he needs to know about you in order to make your ceremony stand out. You may not know all the details that go into planning a wedding ceremony, so Reverend Gary can help by guiding the discussion based on his years of experience, but it is your wedding.
Most importantly—Relax. Enjoy. Bask in the glow of your love for one another and the joy that it brings to you and those around you! After you've met with Reverend Gary, he'll take care of the planning and coordination of the ceremony, and make sure everything is perfect on your wedding day.
...a top-quality wedding officiant can make a huge difference in the success of a wedding, the experience of the wedding guests, and the lives of the couple before, during, and long after their big day.
If you'd like to meet with Reverend Gary to discuss your upcoming wedding and/or book our services, you may schedule a meeting with him in person or via FaceTime or Skype.
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“Marriage gives love a direction, a calling. It promises that love can lead somewhere, to a purpose higher than oneself.”
—Gay Marriage: Why It Is Good for Gays, Good for Straights, and Good for America, by Johnathan Rauch
Planning Your Wedding Ceremony
Types of Wedding Ceremonies
Whether you choose a traditional religious ceremony, a contemporary spiritual ceremony, an interfaith or blended ceremony, or a non-religious civil ceremony, Reverend Gary will work with you to help you determine what you would like on your wedding day. Reverend Gary is also willing to officiate using any custom ceremony you create and provide him with.
It's your wedding day. Let's make it special and memorable together! There's no request too "out of the box" for Reverend Gary. He's done maritime-themed weddings, Star Wars weddings, and even a Game of Thrones-themed wedding, at which he pronounced the couple married, "in the name of Joffrey, First of his Name, King of the Andals, the Rhoynar, and the First Men, Lord of the Seven Kingdoms, and Protector of the Realm...Winter is coming, so heat things up and kiss the bride!"
- Traditional Christian (usually based on traditional rituals i.e. Roman Catholic, Episcopal, Lutheran, Methodist, Presbyterian, etc.)
- Nondenominational Christian
- Nonspecific Religious (mentions God, but not Jesus)
- Other Religious (Non-Christian) Traditions
- Interfaith and Co-celebrated
Secular (Nonreligious) Ceremonies
- Non-religious (no mention of God)
- Commitment Ceremonies
- Vow Renewals
- Blended Family Ceremonies
- Elopements & Quickie Weddings
- License Signings*
- Destination Weddings
* If you're thinking of having your cousin, best friend, or co-worker who was ordained online officiate your wedding, you will probably need a qualified officiant to sign your license in New York State to make your marriage legal. There is a brief ceremony involved in order for Reverend Gary to legally sign your Marriage License. Caveat emptor: You'd be surprised how many times Reverend Gary has been asked at the last minute to officiate because someone's "minister" friend wasn't prepared or backed out just prior to the wedding day.
Customizing Your Ceremony
Once your ceremony's basic elements are planned, it's a matter of customizing the rest of the service to your wishes and desires. We can accommodate your family, cultural or religious traditions in many ways. Many weddings also include additional ceremonial acts that reflect the beliefs, values, and personal preferences of the couple.
Remember, there are no limitations! We will work with you to craft a unique ceremony that reflects your wishes. Reverend Gary is particularly adept at making each couple's ceremony unique to their personal love story.
Click the link below to read about several of the optional rituals and traditions that are commonly included in wedding ceremonies:
Wedding Officiant Services
Our Wedding Officiant Service includes our initial meeting (in person or via teleconference like FaceTime or Skype), unlimited phone, email, and text message consultation during the planning stage, preparation of your personalized ceremony and vows, and the officiating of the ceremony itself. We also send the fully executed marriage license back to the issuing agency (as required by law). Every couple receives a bound copy of their personalized ceremony script and wedding vows to keep with their wedding memories.
Reverend Gary always tries to arrive at least one hour prior to your ceremony start time. This gives him time to work out the details regarding the license signing, setting up any items needed for your unity, rose, or love-letter box ceremony, and attending any rehearsal or run-through with your maître d' or bridal attendant. He will communicate and work with with your other vendors (musician or DJ, photographer and/or videographer) to make certain your ceremony flows smoothly.
If you are having a rehearsal prior to the wedding day, it's usually a practice session for your wedding party's lineup, entrance and recessional. The ceremony itself is not customarily rehearsed. There is no real need for Reverend Gary to attend, but if you would like him to be there and he has the availability, it can be arranged for an additional fee.
We utilize a standard service contract for all our services which specifies our fee and other important information. We find that this minimizes confusion and clearly states the expectations and responsibilities of all parties.
We provide a secure online Client Portal for each client, where we store all your wedding questionnaires, sample vows, readings, and other important documents so you can refer to them at any time. Your Client Portal will be activated after your wedding date is booked.
In the event that your venue requires vendors to carry liability insurance, we are fully insured up to $1,000,000 per occurrence, and can provide the venue with a general certificate of insurance or one that names them as an additional insured if we are given a few days' notice.
Our fee generally depends on the location of the venue:
- Brookhaven Town: $400
- Islip, Riverhead, Smithtown, Southampton (West of Shinnecock Canal) : $450
- Babylon, East Hampton, Huntington, Shelter Island, Southampton (East of Shinnecock Canal), Southold $500*
- Nassau County: $525
- Brooklyn and Queens: $550
- Other New York City: $600*
- Upstate New York, New Jersey & Connecticut: Request a Personalized Proposal Below*
- Elopement Special: $75-$100 call for details
- "Cookie Cutter" or "Fill in the Names" Ceremony: Save $100 call for details
* Travel time and costs are calculated into our fee structure. Tolls (bridges, tunnels, highways), transportation (ferries), and parking fees may be additional and will be specified in our Proposal.
Special circumstances will require a personalized quotation (for example: shipboard weddings, skydive weddings, destination weddings, upstate or out-of-state weddings, etc.).
Costumes or specialized garb (suits of armor, spacesuits, Star Trek® uniforms, etc.) must be provided by the couple, and must not interfere with Reverend Gary's ability to be clearly heard, or restrict his movement.
Holidays and holiday weekends may incur a surcharge if not booked at least six (6) months in advance.
Many couples ask us whether "tipping" the officiant is customary. Reverend Gary is a professional wedding officiant, and charges accordingly for his services. If you think Reverend Gary did a great job and went above and beyond your expectations, then a gratuity is certainly appropriate. Although a gratuity is never expected, it is always very much appreciated when one is received. As with many other wedding vendors, we commonly see tips of 10-15% of our total fee.
In order to get married in New York State, you must first obtain a Marriage License. Even for an elopement, a license is required. Licenses from other states are not valid in the State of New York.
The Best Advertising is a Satisfied Client
It was beautiful! Everyone commented on how beautiful the ceremony was and Reverend Gary was delightful throughout, putting everyone at ease...
—Sue & Charlie
Awards & Recognitions
Reviews & Recommendations
Reverend Gary has been reviewed several times on WeddingWire, TheKnot, and Facebook. He is also happy to provide references from some of the couples he's married. Click the link below to read some of Reverend Gary's many 5-Star comments:
We had our wedding ceremony in a vineyard but still wanted to have a ceremony that had a Catholic religious aspect. Rev Gary incorporated exactly what we wanted...it was beautiful! He captured our guests with humor and added touching quotes that described us as a couple. We received so many compliments on our ceremony.
—Michele & Kristian
Reverend Gary was everything we wanted! He was so easy to talk to and made the process simple. We talked on the phone, facetime, in person and he was always so happy to speak with us and made sure every detail we wanted in our ceremony was included. On the day of, Gary made sure our ceremony was perfect! He put in his own twist after learning about us that made it so personal. We are still getting comments on how amazing our ceremony was and asking how we found him! Gary made our day more special than we could imagine. Thank you!!
—Samantha & Joseph
Photos of Some of our Happy Couples
The link above also has several photos of Reverend Gary and the various vestments and attire you can ask him to wear at your wedding. Generally, you can choose what he'll wear, subject to availability and suitability.
About Reverend Gary Gudzik
Reverend Gary is the Vicar of the Chapel of Saint Valentine. He is an ordained non-denominational Christian Minister, and a Registered Marriage Officiant in the City of New York (No. 1875493). He can legally officiate at your wedding anywhere in the States of New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut (among other places).
I get to be a part of the happiest day of their lives. Watching as nervousness gives way to the pure expression of love and joy in their faces is always amazing. To witness that transformation is really special...and to know that I had a part in bringing the moment into being is a wholly rewarding feeling!
—Reverend Gary Gudzik
In addition to being senior clergy at the Chapel of Saint Valentine, Reverend Gary serves as Chaplain to the Port Jefferson Fire Department, Boy Scout Troop 1776, and the Benjamin Tallmadge District of the Suffolk County Council, Boy Scouts of America.
IAPWO Code of Ethics
IAPWO Members Agree to:
- Perform marriage ceremonies in accordance with all local, state, and national laws
- Provide services to all couples, regardless of race, sexual orientation, religion, ethnicity, creed, color, sex, age, disability, or country of national origin of any party
- Utilize a written, legal contract for all client services
- Establish and charge a professional rate for their services
- Accurately represent their services to clients honestly and fairly
- Honor all commitments made to clients, venues, and other wedding professionals
- Be on time for their weddings, and respectful of couples and their guests
- Perform all ceremonies without being under the influence of alcohol or drugs
- Foster an attitude of support, encouragement, and camaraderie among fellow officiants
There are a number of advantages to hiring a professional officiant. They bring the necessary knowledge, experience, and skill to help you create a top-quality ceremony and deliver it with poise and grace. Ask any wedding planner, photographer, or videographer whether they prefer to work with an amateur or a professional officiant and they will tell you the same thing: definitely hire a professional.