1. Inner Critic: “I’m not good at it; that’s why I can’t do it.”
Definition: The Inner Critic judges self, blames self, complains about self, and demeans self. Its positive intention is to protect self from failure, but the actual result is either a partial attempt or no attempt at all.
Identify: “I’m going to wait until the last minute to complete the assignment and watch Netflix”. With this situation, I’m scared to attempt the assignment because I’m not good with the subject. Instead of making an effort, I watch Netflix instead.
Revise: I can change the language, by telling myself, to make an attempt on the assignment. If I’m still confused, I would ask the professor or a classmate for help. Example: "Today I'm going to the library to complete my class assignment".
2. Inner Defender: “I would’ve made an A if my professor could speak English!”
Definition: The Inner Defender judges others, then blames them before self-assessment takes place. Once blaming an external takes place, complaining about the external and demeaning the external replaces problem-solving and escape occurs. Its positive intention seems to be fending off criticism and punishment from others.
Identify: “I don’t want to take responsibility for failing the class, I need to look for a reasoning”. The person doesn’t want to take blame for failing the class. "My professor has a strong accent, I couldn't understand what she was saying during her lectures".
Revise: “I can’t understand my professor, so I’m going to the tutor or a classmate for help”. I can attempt to make change, even though I don’t understand my professor. "I'm going to tutoring because I have hard time understanding my professor lectures.
3. Inner Guide: “I did this, so now I need to correct it.”
Definition: The Inner Guide offers an objective and wise perspective about ourselves and others. It doesn’t self-demean; it doesn’t attack. Our inner guide tells us the absolute truth and allows us to be more conscious of reality, other people, and ourselves.
Identify: The person is taking the blame for something they did. The person is taking the extra step to correct the errors. "A person going through an exam they got back, and making corrections for their Microeconomics class".
Don’t Revise! Instead, reflect on how this type of self-talk resulted in positive behaviors and outcomes.
In my life, my inner default is the inner critic. In my mind, I always say I’m not good enough to do something. When I try to complete a hard assignment, I blame myself frequently and fear failure. I think the inner critic is my inner default, because sometimes I don’t have enough confidence. With me having an inner critic voice, I sometimes procrastinate on a assignment. Procrastination leads me waiting until the last minute or not completing the assignment at all. Yes, I would like to change my inner default. I would like to go from a inner critic to an inner guide. To make this change, I would like to gain more confidence when completing work for a harder classes. Another change for me, is being able to know the information in detail so I can be prepared for class. I can put this into practice by telling myself, “I can do it”. Instead of fearing failure, I need think more positive. When it come to certain situations, I need to give myself an extra push. By telling myself “I can do it” and make a plan, I’m gaining confidence to complete the assignment. Instead of rushing to complete an assignment, I should take my time to understand what it’s asking me. If I still have problems, I should visit a tutor or ask a classmate for help. Asking another knowledgeable person beside your professor, will help you in the long run. The tutor or classmate might explain the information in a different way, compared to your professor.