Common Exhibit #1 Recognizing and Revising self-talk patterns

Identifying the inner critic in my life: I've noticed many times through the past years, while taking a test, that there will be this little voice in my head that says "You're not smart enough to pass this test" or "No chance I'll be able to get this question right." This often leads me to feeling a tad discouraged at the beginning of a test, but I normally can push through it and finish my test just fine. I have to block out my inner critic.

Inner critic revision: Many times I can be the biggest critic of myself. I often times find myself being too hard on myself about my school work and how I am doing on it. I can change this critic to become a "guide" by only thinking positive thoughts about myself and the work in put in on my school work.

Identifying the Inner Defender in my life: I often do not blame others for my failures, but one I can remember is like the example from the sheet, "if only my professor would've spoken English I would've made an A. In my case it would have been a C instead of a D. But I did blame the professors broken English as to why I made a D in his class which I can't do anymore. I knew most of the reason I got the D was because I did not put in the necessary work, but I still felt like he should take part of the blame just because he was hard to understand.

Inner Defender Revision: I think this whole situation can end with simply taking responsibility for my actions, and also just put in the work I need to put in to get the results I want to see. Instead of throwing the blame on someone else, I can just put in the hard work and there will be no reason to blame anyone because I will see better results.

Identifying the Inner Guide in my life: One thing that comes to mind when thinking of this Inner Guide in my life is when I hurt someones feelings without consciously doing it. I said something to one of my friends that would not necessarily hurt a guys feelings, but with her being a girl, she took it to heart and it really hurt her feelings. This voice was in my head saying "that wasn't right, you should go apologize to her." This voice wasn't attacking me for saying what I said, rather just making sure I made things right before it went too far.

Reflection on the situation above: The girl mentioned in the situation above is one of my best friends that I have grown up with my whole life, and luckily both of our paths led us to Clemson after high school. With that being said, I don't think this one little riff could have derailed our friendship, but I still wouldn't want to hurt her feelings, so I'm glad I was able to apologize quickly and make things clear that I didn't mean any harm with my comments. This voice in my head led me to make a positive choice and helped me to be honest with my friend, and I hope it continues in future situations like this one.

Reflection: I think the voice that is default voice in my head is definitely the "inner guide." I'm pretty conscious of the things I do (most of the time) and how they not only effect myself but the others around me. The reasoning for this voice being my default voice is because of the way my parents have raised me. They raised me to be respectful and courteous of others. Basically, they taught me how to treat others the right way. Most of the time if you treat others with respect, that respect will be returned right back to you. I don't think I want this voice in my head to change anytime soon. Although it can be annoying some times, because I'm not a big risk taker even though I may want to be sometimes, I think this voice in my head leads to having good values and qualities that people can respect. I will continue to put this voice in my head in practice in future situations like the one above if they may arise.


Created with images by Cesar Vargas - "talking man"

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