What Makes Someone Unforgettable?
With all of our social interactions that occur in both business and in our personal lives, I find it interesting how we choose to handle those connections. For example our business interactions are usually all about the "art of the deal". Our personal connections are about being kind, virtuous and charming in order to "fit in." But many times they both have a common desire...and that is "what's in this for me?"
We usually consider the formula for success in life to be all about...achieving, attracting and consuming. We place so much of our energy into connecting with our "clients" and then whatever we have left at the end of day is what we bring home to our LOVE or LOVE's (family). We need to remember that it's not just about showing up, and bedazzling them with our presence out of habit...that keeps others engaged.
Creating deep connections with people can bring out a strong emotional feelings, and those feelings do not protect you from experiencing all of the dualities that come with LOVE or any other type of connection. The highs that accompany the unity, through strength, desire and perhaps even inspiration. But also the lows with fear, risk, tension and uncertainty.
When coming together in marriage or partnerships of all kinds, we seek that "one person" to be our EVERYTHING! This is an impossible and unrealistic assumption created for self preservation. We have become so inundated from our daily routine and survival that sometimes we forget how to even cherish ourselves let alone another person.
Cherishing another has nothing to do with being "everything" to others. In fact, it has more to do with being your own "everything" and embracing the fact that the person that you have come together with...is really just "on loan". They have the freedom to come and go, and to desire independently from your own wishes. This can be the cold and factual truth, unlike anything we want to embrace about LOVE. So many treat "their" LOVE like a possession. Believing that "the two" are now "one," and that there should be complete devotion on their LOVE's part...at all times.
Our real truths start with mastering our own stories in life, while embracing the fact that we too can choose to be an unforgettable force by learning the very important "dance" of allure. Allure, is all about having an inner radiance, building curiosity and creating a longing. Be a conundrum...because being basic and predictable is so average. The excitement is in the mystery! Now ask yourself this...what makes you or someone else you feel that is special in your life...unforgettable? Above all others. If you cannot answer this...than who can?