Rule 1 – Boxes and the Big Ball o’ Wire
Their brains are made up of little boxes, there’s a box for every conceivable subject.
Keep in mind that the boxes...
DON’T TOUCH EACH OTHER
Their brains are made up of a big ball of wire which means...
Everything is connected to each other
and it’s all driven by the energy we call emotion.
If you have a bravado big enough to tell a person with this kind of brain that their feelings...
IN ANY WAY don’t matter,
you are basically committing suicide.
Rule 2 – Stress
Most men have a box in their brains with nothing in it. Appropriately, it is called...
The Nothing Box
It is where a man goes any time he has a chance, especially if he is stressed out. This is how a man can do seemingly completely brain-dead activities for long periods of time, like shooting hoops, fishing or mindless channel surfing on the television.
Most women need to talk about whatever stresses them out. Unlike men, they DON'T have a “Nothing Box” nor can they ever understand it the way a guy can. If a woman doesn’t talk about her stress, she'll probably have a mental breakdown. If you happen to be the one this woman needs to talk to, keep in mind it's important that you give her your undivided attention. She doesn’t want your help or your advice, no matter how good you think it would be.
Men and women often try to offer to each other their own solutions to stress, but if you know someone who has the typical “man brain” and can sense that they’re stressed out, just let them go to their nothing box – and don’t try following them.
Likewise if you know someone with the typical “woman brain” who is stressed, let them talk to you, and don't attempt to give advice, just listen to what they're saying.
Rule 3 – Remembering Details
With as much time as men like to spend in the nothing box, not feeling or thinking about anything, men don’t really hang on to a lot of details; when they tell a story or, for example, recount what the plumber said, it is usually just the bottom line.
As women’s brains are driven so much by emotion, they have a strong tendency to remember EVERYTHING, and when they tell a story of, say, something that happened at work today, they don’t just say what happened, the relive the entire event, practically transporting you into their experience.
Rule 4 – Single-tasking and Multi-tasking (Communication)
They can focus well on ONE thing and do that ONE thing extremely well, but their brains...
to any other tasks, including to the task of listening.
If you see a man doing something, unless you know he’s wired differently, you can assume that he cannot hear anything going on around him.
The typical woman is a master of multi-tasking; she's capable of holding three different conversations, watching TV, cooking dinner, and reading a magazine, all at once.
Many women automatically make the assumption that multi-tasking comes as easily to anyone else, including men, as it does to them.
If you have vital information to give to someone, just to make sure they are listening.
Women are much more interested in connecting with others, especially their husband if married, on a deep meaningful level.
It's not accurate to think that the typical woman isn't interested in sex, or that a typical guy has no interest in reaching another person’s heart. It’s simply an order of needs and wants. The best example of this working well is in a marriage relationship, where the husband and wife both recognize what their partner wants and, in giving that thing to them, open the door to obtaining what they themselves want from their partner and both end up very satisfied and connected to each other in a very meaningful way.
They love to take
They compete-taking, do business-taking, etc. Taking is a man’s default mode. Men need to learn how to give to have more success in their relationships with the women-brained. Women especially love...
Another thing you must keep in mind is that...
The secret to living is giving.
They love to give. Women often think that they can inspire a man to give rather than just take, by simply giving more, because women...
love to give
This is their preferred course of action. They need to learn...
how to take in their relationships.
Pastor Mark Gungor places much more emphasis on WOMEN needing to learn about this, about putting conditions in place in your relationships, and he even gives a few tips for how to get a man to do stuff for you.
- Ask him more than once.
- Don’t try to use insult as a way to motivate him.
- Train him with positive reinforcement. (Appreciation)
- Barter with him.
They tend to suffer from lowered self-esteem. According to Gungor, this PRIMARILY applies to North-American, Caucasian women.
Remember that the single most attractive quality that a woman or anyone can possess is confidence;
it’s not about how tall, short, fat, skinny, dark, pale, oily, or whatever it is you may think you are.
Women love chick-flicks
Especially to connect the “wires,” to nurture the relationships, and to touch the hearts of people.
There is one theme that manifests itself in both the hearts of men and women:
the hero always goes back for the girl
This means not only the obvious, that women like to be swept off their feet, but also that men have a god-given responsibility, or calling, or role, or however you wish to phrase it, to always remember at the end of the day, or anytime really, to return for their wife, children, or whatever other loved ones he might have because all the guts, gold, and glory in the world means nothing without them.
Celebrity Quotes on relationships
(Yes, I understand the shock from the title, genuine long-lasting relationships DO, or HAVE existed in Hollywood!)
Let's take a look at what world-famous actor Paul Newman said in an interview:
"Why go out for a hamburger, when I have a steak at home?"
For those who didn't understand the analogy, he basically said why bother have cheap sex with some girl when you can make have the most intimate time of your life with the woman of your dreams?