Here are some things I find challenging...
- Chaos & unpredictability, particularly in small spaces. Sudden clapping, cheering, shouts, and bangs can be startling and upsetting. This is why assembly can be hard sometimes. My headphones help, so encourage me to wear them if you know things might get rowdy.
- Sharing. In general, I'm learning how to take turns and share, but am still only successful about 50% of the time.
- When I get hit or bumped, even on accident, it can be very upsetting.
- Focusing in class, particularly in loud environments and on non-preferred subjects, is very challenging.
- Understanding complex instructions. Break it down into small bits, one step at a time, and I'm more able to follow.
- Making friends. I like other kids (especially the quieter/gentler ones), but struggle to understand how to play games with them, or what they are asking of me.
- Transitions. I'm pretty flexible overall, but appreciate 2-minute and 1-minute warnings, especially when transitioning out of a preferred activity.
Making big bubbles is one of my favorite things to do.
If I'm upset
Many of the things listed above make me anxious and can be upsetting. If I'm upset, I may scream, cry, fall on the floor and stomp my feet.
If this happens...
- Limit questioning and people trying to help
- A quiet moment and a hug with a person I trust helps
- If I tell you what upset me, I appreciate hearing that you understood me. Something like, "Oh, the ball bonked your leg? I bet that was surprising/frustrating/hurt/made you feel sad/angry."
- Once I feel understood, I can usually move on. Positive distractions do help though.