Diversity focused- Multiculturalism, fiercely independent, globalism, optimistic.
My name is Tristen Cross and I am a gay guy living in a “must be straight” life. I am forever and island guy that is curious to experience the city life. I love traveling to different places in the world. As well as going on as many adventures possible with my friends. My dream career is to become a flight attendant and explore the world. Eventually as my flight attendant career comes to an end I would like to run a hotel and give the amazing experiences I have gained to other tourist. I plan to stay in the tourism industry to express wonderful experiences to many different types of people.
Does culture bring you security/comfort/acceptance?
"The Hawaiian culture was made up of three different types of people; women, men, and mahu. Mahu Hawaiians are the ones that are interested in the same sex. Collectively Hawaiians were accepting of everyone. They did not judge mahu people as hard as some people do today."
How has race/ethnicity/financial status/religion/geography affected your coming out process and support structures.
"Coming out of the closet was a very tough thing for me to do. Mainly because my family believes that being gay is a sin. When you make a sin, god is not on your side. I kept telling myself that God loves each and every one of us no matter the outcome. Although my parents did not like the idea of me being gay, I told them that God created me for a reason. That reason being to leave a mark on this earth."
"As the world trembles in the wake of the American elections, it's time to follow and join the example of Hawaiians, and indigenous nations across time, to Stand Tall, Be Fearless and Steadfast, Paddle on in Our Pursuits of Justice, Until our Dignity and Independence is Restored!"
"I walk with my head held high!"
Being from Hawaii, how did the culture affect your coming out or transitioning?
"Hawaii is known as the Aloha state and coming from a community where volleyball is really well known it was fairly easy to be who I was meant to be (a more flamboyant gay). It's the volleyball community and the acceptance from them that helped me to be comfortable in my own skin and accept me for who I am."
Does the culture bring security, comfort, and acceptance?
"The culture does bring security, comfort & acceptance because Hawaii is such a small community, a lot of family's know or have heard of each other and are willing to stand up for each other."