I would have to say that nine times out of ten I have positive self-talk patterns. I try my best to always stay confident in myself and do certain things to the best of my ability. If you do not believe in yourself then no one will. Saying this, there are times when I am not so confident and I let negativity get into my head. Whenever this happens I do my best to block out all of the negativity and focus mainly on all of the positives. You can't let negativity get you down, you have to know that the good things outweigh the bad.
1. INNER CRITIC: "I'm not good at it; that's why I can't do it."
There have been several times where I "thought" I wasn't good at something and told myself I couldn't do it. It's not that we're not good at something, it's that we think we're not good. For example, I love to workout and play football. I was working on running drills one day and specifically working on my hip movement and change of direction. There were times when I would mess up and think I just wasn't good at doing it. My body was tired, I had been doing it for a long time, and I just needed to take a break. We have to tell ourselves that we won't give up and that we will keep moving forward. Our bodies sometimes feel like they're out of gas but that's when our minds need to tell us to keep going and giving it everything we have.
2. INNER DEFENDER: "I would've made an A if my professor could speak English!"
We often blame other people or things for our own mistakes. In my opinion you need to always own up to your mistakes. No matter how bad the mistake or what happened, you'll always feel better if you take full responsibility for your actions and then work to fix it. One time I was out with my friends and I stayed out pretty late. I had a test the next day and did very poorly on it. When my mom asked me what happened, I said " I couldn't help it, my friends wanted me to go hangout with them." Looking back at this, I realized it was completely my fault. All I had to do was tell them I couldn't go and stay home to study for the test.
3. INNER GUIDE: "I did this, so now I need to correct it."
People make mistakes every day. It's part of being human. What matters is how we react to these mistakes. When something goes wrong we need to realize what happened and begin to correct it. For example, I was dating this girl in high school and it was her birthday. I had so much going on at the time that I had completely forgot about it. I knew I had did something very bad when she didn't talk to me for the whole day. I instantly begin to fix this. I bought her flowers and took her out to eat along with taking her shopping. After this she had forgot about the whole thing and I was off the hook.
I would have to say that I look at life with an inner guide perspective. There are often times where I mess up but I do whatever it takes to fix it. I feel this way because I want to be the best I can possibly be. I know I’m not perfect but I can always make myself better. If I could change this, I would want to better myself at making myself better. I know it sounds crazy but I would really want to point out my mistakes in life and use all of my power to fix them. For example, I have football tryouts in the fall and I know how hard it’s going to be. There was one time when I wished that the team wasn’t so good because I wanted the easy road but the more I think about it I’m glad of their accomplishments. I want it to be a challenge and I want it to be a rough road. I often find myself “in the moment”, where I’m tired or sore but then I think about it and realize that I shouldn’t just lie down and quit, that’s when I should push harder than I ever have before. We face adversity every day and it’s our job to beat that adversity and overcome it. First semester I let my classes defeat me and get the best of me and that isn’t me. What you get in life is what you earn. In high school everything is handed to you on a silver platter but as you enter the real world you really have to fend for yourself. This class has shown me how to get up and go to class. It’s shown me how to really utilize my time and put my energy to good use.