How can we as parents, who didn’t grow up with this magnitude of technology, MENTOR our kids?
Keep the conversations….conversational
In a recent discussion with my own teen, we had a frank talk about sexting and why kids do it - even though parents, teachers and even the authorities warn them about the long-term repercussions and dangers. His response was “because they don’t care.” This led to a conversation together about morals and values. The overall consensus was that teens, in general, l hear the same “don’t” message over and over again, to the point that they tune it right out. It reminded me of the Peanut’s gang teacher “lecturing” in the classroom and all we heard was “wah, wah, wah, waah, waaah.”
A good conversation is the right combination of allowing each person to speak, and more importantly, for the non-speakers to listen.
From the discussion together with my son, I learned a lot about what is going on in my child’s world just by taking the time to hear what he had to say. I didn’t lecture or judge, I just listened. What that said to my son was, “I think what you have to say is important,” and “You can trust me.”