5) Denial and Blame: In order to keep their victims in love with them and blind to their true selves, abusers will blame their actions on circumstances, even made up ones.
After using these different tactics, abusers will apologize for their actions, or blame them on the victims themselves, then act as if nothing has happened.
Often times victims will leave their abusers, only to return to them again. Concerned family and friends can find this frustrating, without realizing the emotional and psychological pull abusers have. Or family and friends may even deny that an abuser is actually abusive, because they never see that side of the person.
If someone confides in you that they are in an abusive relationship, please, do not tell them that they are mistaken. Believe them, because they know their situation much better.
If you feel like you may be in an abusive relationship and are in need of assistance, please call the appropriate hotline for you.
- US: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
- Canada: Visit ShelterSafe to find the helpline of a women’s shelter near you.
- UK: Call Women’s Aid UK at 0808 2000 247.
- Ireland: Call Women’s Aid at 1800 341 900.
- Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732.
- Worldwide: visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers.