What do you find yourself worrying over the most?
Sometimes when you're thinking too much, everything may feel as if it's going wrong. You may be stressed over school, over your friendship group, maybe even a small thing like keeping your room tidy! So, do you know how to handle it?
There may be a few options that you want to take on board.
CHANGE HOW YOU SEE IT.
Concentrating on the bad things often leads to over thinking. As much as this is a natural feeling, there are ways that you can stop this from happening or getting worse.
- Think of things that you enjoy doing every day. Get a pen and paper, make a list of them, and for each task write down how you feel about it.
- How good does it make you feel on a scale of 1-10?
- Lay down and put some music on if you must, do whatever it takes to put yourself into a calmer mood.
Life's a climb, but the view is great.
FOCUS ON SOMETHING ELSE.
It is a lot easier said than done but when you feel yourself starting to worry, it helps to try and distract yourself.
- Go to your top favourite place, or a place where you tend to feel most relaxed. This could be a park nearby to where you live, your garden, gran and granddads house, or maybe even your bedroom. Get on with a hobby of yours such as drawing, playing football, listening to music etc.
- If you find that this doesn't help you, what do you do on a daily basis that relaxes you? Something that you enjoy?
- It may be a possibility to try something new. This might feel like a big step for you, but it could well be the best decision you make for yourself. Why not try a drama group? Maybe join a new football/rugby/cricket/dance club. It helps more when you have people around you that share the same interests as you. Not only that, it helps you to socialise more and make a new friend base other than the people you're usually with in school. This is always beneficial to you!
- If you feel like you're not ready to take that step just yet, then stick to the idea of trying something new. You may have always thought that you couldn't draw or maybe that you couldn't sing/dance! But what's the harm in trying it?
You may have opened a door that you never thought was unlocked, let alone open for you.
SPEAK TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY ABOUT IT.
Thinking too much can often lead to keeping your feelings to yourself. This is something you definitely should not do.
- Speak to someone you trust 100% and tell them how you feel, it feels good to get everything off your chest. As scary as this may seem, it'll help you a lot more than you realise.
- While your friends are obviously people that you are close to and people that you are around a lot...it may be better to speak to an adult about your feelings, as they have more or likely been in your position a thousand times before!
- Do not hold any emotion back in fear that you may be embarrassed to show how you feel. If you need to cry, if you need to shout or even just stay silent for a while...that is okay. Do whatever you need to do to release everything that you have kept to yourself.
There is no time restriction on how you are supposed to recover from the things that may be happening in your life. Take as much time as you possibly need.
FOCUS ON THE THINGS THAT ARE WORRYING YOU THE MOST.
Now, there may be a lot of them. However, if there is one big thing that is worrying you that sticks out like a sore thumb, work on it.
- Try to think of the positives and negatives to what you're worrying about.
- What can you do to stop you from worrying more? Is there someone you can speak to about it?
- While doing this, do not worry yourself any further than you already have.
Make today so awesome, yesterday gets jealous!
IS IT REALLY SOMETHING TO WORRY ABOUT?
This is a question that you need to ask yourself every time you find yourself being concerned over something.
- I am not saying that worrying over something such as a test in school is not something worth worrying about whatsoever! But as long as you're trying your hardest then you have nothing to be concerned over. However there is a thin line between being worried and then purely stressing out.
- Say for instance, you had a maths test, do not go overboard with your revision. Revise for 45 minutes and have a break for another 15. If you feel up for it, do another half an hour of revision and then give yourself some free time.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, focus on what could go right.
YOU CAN NOT HAVE A RAINBOW WITHOUT A LITTLE RAIN!
We all have our bad days, and yes that does include myself! If this advice didn't help you, don't be afraid to speak to someone a little more professional.
Don't be afraid to see a counsellor whether it's inside or outside of school. As scary as it may seem to you, it helps a lot more than you think.
"Don't ruin a good day by thinking of a bad one. Every new day is another chance to change your life"
"Set a goal that makes you jump out of bed with excitement in the morning"
"Worry about loving yourself, instead of loving the idea of everyone else loving you"
"You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore"