High levels of perception also have a big role to play in such circumstances, not only in seeing beyond the superficial to know the hurt, but also the deep awareness of right, wrong and fairness. How can one right these wrongs of the world? How is it that others seem to fail to see the need, or fail to care enough?
If you have a teenager, then you likely appreciate how quickly relationships become a central part of their identity. So for the gifted teen who is highly perceptive and empathetic, it can be a very dramatic progression from needing to 'make' a change, to 'being' the change, to being stuck in a situation that is over their heads. As Lovecky says, "This sense of passionate commitment is powerful, and far outweighs all the conflict that might occur before the goal is attained", in this case the goal to heal somone.
It is important that we instil a clear sense in our children and teens, of the signs of "too much", along with the knowledge of how and where to access support, whether from home, school, friends' parents, mentors, professionals or other safe adults. They need lots of options available to them, because as Brene Brown establishes in her TED Talk, shame and vulnerability go hand in hand, often making it very difficult for our teens to open up, and bridge what can at times, seem like an insurmountable divide, to ask for (non-judgemental) help.
A substantial level of conflict and often self-blame, accompanies high levels of perceptiveness. While it brings an unusual depth of insight, it can also bring a very strong sense of responsibility and ownership over choices and their accompanying consequences. If you think about this in terms of an abusive relationship, it is easy to see how easily these teens might slip into a victim mentality of "I deserve it", and struggle to see that a/ they need to extricate themselves from a situation that is damaging, and b/ find a way out.