I recently went through a very bad and long break up, with my ex-fiancee. I remember I reached out to many people for help, because I had no one around me, I had no social support. I just needed to be with some one just around them. But many were just too busy. Didn't have time or just didn't want to get involved or "Just didn't want to get involved." Those were legit what some told me. I was going to a psychiatrist, but that's not enough. I was having suicidal ideations. I would look at anything analyzing it if it would be good tool to help me in case I did decide to take care of things myself. This scared the shit out of me and realizing this. I found NODA Hop Yoga (IG: @noda_hop_yoga) in Charlotte, NC at NODA Brew Co. on Sundays at 11 am. These amazing people have a $5 yoga class and a free beer included. (shameless plug). I met probably the least judgmental people I've ever met there. I looked forward to those Sunday mornings as they just took me into there circle after our yoga sessions and talked to me like I was just a regular that had been every Sunday before. Courtney, Josh, and Erica saved my life and I am eternally grateful to them.
We need a support system. We need people to be around and just be there. You don't have to talk to them. you don't have to drag them out to do something if they don't want to. If they don't want to. The worst thing you can tell some one with a mental illness is to "just get over it, just let it go, or you were an soldier and NCO, get you're shit together." Thats the worst thing you can tell some one. Because, if we could just get over it we would. There is nothing someone in this mental state wants more than, to not be in that mental state. How many times have you seen the "Buddy checks" on social media? While these intentions are good, how many times have you seen someone say anything to allude that they are dealing with shit in those posts? Not many if at all. The best way to be there for some one is to actually be there.