recognizing and revising self-talk patterns Learning Objective #1

Part 1: Identify Three Inner Voices

Definition: The Inner Critic judges self, blames self, complains about self, and demeans self. Its positive intention is to protect self from failure, but the actual result is either a partial attempt or no attempt at all.

Identify: I tell myself I am bad at math because I often struggle with it. In my Math 1020 class i often give up on paying attention because I do not know what is going on.

"I am terrible at math therefore I will probably fail Math 1020."

Revise: Instead of telling myself I am not good at math, I can ask more questions and make sure I am understanding the material before I just give up.

Definition: The Inner Defender judges others, then blames them before self-assessment takes place. Once blaming an external takes place, complaining about the external and demeaning the external replaces problem-solving and escape occurs. Its positive intention seems to be fending off criticism and punishment from others.

Identify: I often will blame my Math 1020 professor for not understanding the material because he does not speak English all that well.

"I could have passed Math 1020 if my professor spoke better English."

Revise: Instead of blaming my Math 1020 professor for his bad accent, I can take charge to learn the material even better outside of the classroom.

Definition: The Inner Guide offers an objective and wise perspective about ourselves and others. It doesn’t self-demean; it doesn’t attack. Our inner guide tells us the absolute truth and allows us to be more conscious of reality, other people, and ourselves.

Identify: I am not understanding Math 1020 all that well in the classroom so I need to take charge and learn it even better outside the classroom.

"I did not practice Math 1020 enough therefore I did not deserve to get an A."

Revise: Teachers are their to assist me when learning. I must take action and make sure I understand the material myself.

Part 2: Reflect

Throughout my life, the inner voice that I tend to use the most is probably the inner critic. I believe this because I often find myself having self-esteem issues. I am not always confident with anything I really do in the classroom. I often catch myself not even paying attention in the classroom because I do not completely understand what is going on. This causes me to not understand homework and other assignments. I wish I could change the way I think when it comes to being successful in the classroom. There are many things I could do to improve my confidence. For instance, I could practice becoming more confident by asking questions in class when I do not fully understand something instead of just giving up. I could also take action outside the classroom by maybe getting a tutor or even meeting with my professor during office hours. I believe this would be very beneficial when it comes to my grades. It will be helpful because I will mainly be keeping up with all of my classes and involved which I think is important for academic success. In the future I could definitely see myself having a better relationship with all of my professors instead of them not knowing me at all. I could also see myself being overall more involved with all of my classes, such as knowing when all tutor sessions and helpful opportunities are available. If I practiced these steps I truly believe it would allow for more confidence in the classroom.

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