Basically , if we are judgmental about anything, we limit the scope of the possibilities of that moment. We limit it with our limited knowledge of what IS at that given point in time.
The dimensions of what are the immense, immeasurable possibilities, of a given moment, will fail to be understood by our limited human intellect and mind. So by being judgmental about that moment, we lose the possibility of achieving the best out of the moment.
By 'the moment' I mean, the person, or persons, in the moment, the situation of the moment, and all the available resources of that moment which we limit by being judgmental.
However, if we open our minds to all possibilities, by being non-judgmental, then, and ONLY then, can we optimize that point in time.
Now , let us see how we can be non-judgmental . This would ideally need a three-pronged approach.
1. The first point is ‘attention’. We must be aware of and pay attention to, the fact that our knowledge of all the dimensions of the moment can only be limited. So we have to understand that because we are looking at it only from our angle of vision we can never completely understand all the angles to it. We may try to look at it from other angles of vision, but the natural limitations of the human intellect will only allow us to be partially successful at arriving at a complete understanding of all the dimensions that go into the making of that moment.
Once we realize that our knowledge of the moment can only be incomplete, we will not try to finalize things about that moment or be ‘conclusive’ about it.
So to practice a non-judgmental attitude, the first point is attention to the fact that at any given moment , our human intellect can only grasp a portion of the whole.
2. The second point is ‘acceptance’. There are many factors that go into the making of that moment. The individuals at that moment may have several problems, several issues which they may be fighting to perform in the best possible manner, at any given point in time, and the same is true for us as well. So we need to be able to accept the fact that there are limitations for everybody, there are problems for everybody, and although there are several strengths for everybody, at that given point in time something may not allow the completeness of that skill to come into play.
If this acceptance is inbuilt into our system, then the mind will automatically relax into a space, where we can make the best of the available resources within the limitations of any given manifest moment.
3. The third and very important point is to learn to ‘surrender to the moment’. There is a higher force that makes anything and everything happens in a particular manner. All of us have been invested with certain skills and certain strengths, and, certain limitations as well, but all these go to make the typical human beings that we all are, and if we understand that there is the Supreme Power which makes each one of us function in a particular manner at any given point in time, we will learn to be completely non-judgmental. And by this, we will understand everybody, and everything , from a more ideal space.
This will help us get the best out of every moment. It will help us feel happy, and remain at peace with the world around us , and deep within as well.
~ by Dr. Ambika Kameshwar
Handbook | Stories of three Guru's for Children by Mr. G. Kameshwar