Why Don’t I Do What I Should? By: Margaret R. Wilder

This week I had a wonderful chat with a friend I haven’t talked to in many years. Near the end of our conversation she confessed,

“I always tell myself that I’m going to attend church on Sunday, but I never do. Why do I do that?”
“I’m not doing a lot of things I should.”
“I am listening to Christian radio, but that’s about it.”
“Why do I do that? I always say I’m going to go to church, but I never do.”

If you want to start attending church regularly but you are out of the habit or have never attended regularly, keeping that promise to yourself to attend church on Sunday won’t come easy.


Because between Friday and Sunday morning you will think of a million reasons NOT to attend.

A few reasons not to attend might be:

  • I am so tired. I need to rest this weekend.
  • I need to mow the lawn.
  • I need to spend time with my kids.
  • I really need to spend time with my spouse.
  • I need to clean my house. This place is so messy! I won’t have time next week.
  • UGH! I forgot! I need to go grocery shopping!
  • Aww man! I need to manicure my yard! Weeds are everywhere! I don’t want my neighbors to complain to the homeowner’s association.
  • I need to go to the beach. I just need to relax. I need to get away.
  • I need to spend time with my parents. They are getting old you know.
  • I definitely don’t want to attend church with Aunt Suzie. She invites me all the time, but she’s nothing but a hypocrite. I bet her whole church is full of them.
  • I don’t know if I’d like that new community church down the street. I don’t know anyone who attends there.
  • I hate visiting new churches. I feel so awkward.

Like I said, there are many reasons NOT to attend church on Sunday, and ONLY ONE main reason to go.

It’s the right thing to do.

The Bible warns us not to stay away from attending church.

Hebrews 10:22-25 (AMP) says,

Let us approach [God] with a true and sincere heart in unqualified assurance of faith, having had our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us seize and hold tightly the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is reliable and trustworthy and faithful [to His word]; and let us consider [thoughtfully] how we may encourage one another to love and to do good deeds, not forsaking our meeting together [as believers for worship and instruction], as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more [faithfully] as you see the day [of Christ’s return] approaching.

Why is this important?

We ALL need encouragement.

We all need Godly “instruction” to gain Wisdom.

Proverbs 4:5-10 (AMP)

“Get [skillful and godly] wisdom! Acquire understanding [actively seek spiritual discernment, mature comprehension, and logical interpretation]! Do not forget nor turn away from the words of my mouth. “Do not turn away from her (Wisdom) and she will guard and protect you; Love her, and she will watch over you. “The beginning of wisdom is: Get [skillful and godly] wisdom [it is preeminent]! And with all your acquiring, get understanding [actively seek spiritual discernment, mature comprehension, and logical interpretation]. “Prize wisdom [and exalt her], and she will exalt you; She will honor you if you embrace her. “She will place on your head a garland of grace; She will present you with a crown of beauty and glory.” Hear, my son, and accept my sayings, And the years of your life will be many.

Promise Breakers or Promise Keepers?

While most of us would never want to break a promise to another person, for some reason we have no problem breaking promises that we make to God and ourselves. We tell ourselves, “God understands—he knows my heart." However, if we are not careful our lives become full of excuses.

The Main Problem

When it comes to right and wrong, anytime we don’t do what we know we should it is because we have not made Jesus Christ Lord over all areas of our lives.

Oh we may have accepted Christ, but what WE want is still more important to us than pleasing God. Until we get really honest with ourselves and God by repenting and asking Him to help us---our lives will be mediocre at best.


Because we are supposed to ask God for guidance...not just do our own thing rationalizing, “God gave me common sense and I am only using it.”

Do you want to be like everyone else or do you want to stand out from the crowd?

God only shares His deep mysteries with those who are listening. As he spoke to Jeremiah the prophet, he will speak with those in the present day who are dedicated to Him.

“Thus says the Lord who made the earth, the Lord who formed it to establish it—the Lord is His name, ‘Call to Me and I will answer you, and tell you [and even show you] great and mighty things, [things which have been confined and hidden], which you do not know and understand and cannot distinguish.’
Jeremiah 33:2-3 (AMP)

When we self-direct our lives without making pleasing God a priority, we will forever be surprised by our lack of joy and true fulfillment. We might even promise ourselves and God that we will live better lives, but repeatedly find ourselves failing.

We cannot pick ourselves up by our own bootstraps. We need God’s help.

When we get to the end of ourselves and truly submit our will to God’s will, and ask him for help---that is when we will see true change in our lives.

Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
Psalm 16:11 (KJV)

Hang in there! God will help YOU!

Even St. Paul said in Romans 7:15,18-19 (AMP):

For I do not understand my own actions [I am baffled and bewildered by them]. I do not practice what I want to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate [and yielding to my human nature, my worldliness—my sinful capacity]. For I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my flesh [my human nature, my worldliness—my sinful capacity]. For the willingness [to do good] is present in me, but the doing of good is not. For the good that I want to do, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want."


Yes, even St. Paul struggled. However, by the end of his life he had an incredible testimony....

I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith:
Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.
II Timothy 4:7-8

What did Jesus have to say?

Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him. He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me. These things have I spoken unto you, being yet present with you. But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 14:23-27 (KJV)

We All Need God’s Help and Mercy. His hand is always reaching out for YOU.


And Listen to this ENCOURAGING Song!!!

All churches should have heart grabing, soulful worship. It should stir your soul and make you WANT to worship! Shop around and find a church that LOVES to worship God. It will CHANGE your life!

Worship can consist of no instruments, one instrument, or a thousand—it’s not the MUSIC that makes the worship. It’s the worshippers!

But a time is coming and is already here when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit [from the heart, the inner self] and in truth; for the Father seeks such people to be His worshipers. God is spirit [the Source of life, yet invisible to mankind], and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.”

John 4:23-24 (AMP)

I LOVE this song. I hope you will too. Let me know what you think.

Copyright: Why Don't I Do What I Should?, Margaret R. Wilder, 2018

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