re·sil·ience September 2020




1. the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

2. the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.

I'm not going to lie. These are some heavy days. Ongoing pandemic, wildfires, divisiveness, social and political unrest ~ they all add up to a heaviness that is reflected in our smoky grey sky.

I'm going to invite you to sing anyway. Even if the song is small and tiny in the back of your throat. Sing anyway. Even if you are off key and don't remember all the words. Sing anyway.

Today I'm remembering two great educators in my life, both of whom I have lost to cancer. One several years ago, one just yesterday. During my years at Dundee Elementary School we had many conversations about resilience. Why some people seem to naturally be resilient and others struggle. It was one of many topics we would ponder in the hallways and classrooms of that little school.

Little did I know at the time, both those men were helping me become an educator. I'm reflecting on all that I learned from them, not only in their professional life, but also in the way they each handled life and loss, difficulties and challenges.

“Sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height. Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches. Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion. That’s its balance.” – Osho

Resilience embodies all aspects of our human experience: emotional, spiritual and physical. It comes to us in the form of hope and courage, strength and suffering, humor and irony, overcoming and rebuilding, growing and rooting.

Physical resilience is one of the messages of The MELT Method. We want to be able to spring back in to shape, to have elasticity. When your body is stiff and you are unable to bounce back physically, your emotional and spiritual resilience will be impacted as well. There is a direct correlation between chronic pain and depression.

Our connective tissue system is where our physical resilience lies. This system moves and morphs in all directions, not rigid like bone, or linear like muscle. It's this system that we must maintain to provide our flexibility and ability to bounce back.

Consider the benefit of a methodology that requires just 10 minutes/day, 3 times a week to make a change in the way you feel and look. Give that gift to yourself. Rebuild a resilient body ~ your emotional and spiritual self will also become more resilient.

I am here to help. I started a new class this week and one of my new clients texted me afterward with a simple message ~ "Good class Shelley! You're a born teacher"

I'm going to sing that song in my heart today and remember the people in my life who got me here.

my gratitude focus for today

Our recent trip to LaPine State Park - the weather was glorious and our timing could not have been better.

My mom on her 87th birthday! We were able to celebrate her outside on her patio with a Sunday family brunch. She looks amazing if I do say so myself.

Our daughter's recent wedding was a highlight of the year. Small and intimate and perfect. Yes, we would have loved to have the whole family present, but everyone joined us on Zoom and the love was palpable.

From left to right: my sister Sue, Todd, Garret and Carley Lukens, me, daughters Kendelyn and Miranda.

Finally, it can't go with saying how community comes together in times like these. Our first responders, who drop everything to do what they do; friends and neighbors who drop everything to help in any way possible; businesses across the state who drop everything to serve lunches, offer shelter, provide resources.

"Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping." Fred Rogers