CD 5 Important Events
The next important event is the marriage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to Khadija. Khadija was a well-known and prosperous woman in Mecca. She was wealthy. She wasn’t married. She was older in age. And she used to hire men to travel for her and do business, because you know that the trade of the people of Mecca used to be based on traveling to Yemen and Syria, Al-Sham. Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala) describes that in SURAH QURAISH (106:1-2) (Note 1)
They had a journey in winter and a journey in summer. One to Yemen, and one to? Al-Sham. So, Khadija would hire men to work for her, and take care of her business. She happened to hire Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), she heard about his honesty. And she was running into trouble with a lot of men, not being honest. So, she wanted to hire somebody who was trustworthy. She heard about Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), so she hired him. And she had her servant accompany Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). Her servant’s name was Misara. Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) went to Al-Sham, did the business for her, came back. Misara reported back to his master. Misara went to Khadija and told her, ‘This man’s, his trustworthiness and honesty is amazing, it’s outstanding.” And he was praising Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). Well, Khadija (ra) became very interested in Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). I mean his character was admirable. Khadija (ra) who was a wealthy woman, who was sought after by the noble men of Quraish, she said, “I want to marry you”. And Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) agreed. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) was 25 and she was 40. The difference was 15 years. She was his senior. And Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) never married anyone else before Khadija (ra) passed away. All of the children of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) were surviving children of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), were from Khadija. Fatima was the daughter of Khadija (ra).
She bore six children for him. They were; Zainab, Ruqayya, Umm-e Kulthum, Fatima, Al-Qasim and Abdullah. And none of them ended up having descendants except Fatima (ra), and that is where the lineage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) is continuing, through the descendants of Fatima and Ali. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) loved her so much and, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) kept his loyalty to Khadija (ra) even after she passed away. He would always remember her, always mention her name, and that sometimes would cause jealousy among the other wives of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). But Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) had so much love, and admiration to Khadija, and so much respect for her, because Khadija is the one who stood up and supported him, when everybody else betrayed Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). (Note 2)
Aisha (ra) was the most beloved to Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) after that, she would sometimes feel this jealousy. It says in Bukhari and Muslim, that Aisha said, “I did not become jealous of any of the wives of the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) except Khadija, and I had not seen her.” The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) used to at times slaughter a sheep and say, ‘send it to the friends of Khadija.’” So not only did Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) always remember her, he kept on maintaining a relationship with the friends of Khadija. “And one day I angered him, when he said that by replying out of jealousy of Khadija, so he (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, ‘I have been given by Allah her life.’” Once we mentioned the name of Khadija, so Aisha was upset. Rusool Alla (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) responded and said, “This is something from Allah (swt), I was given her life.” “It’s not something that I control.” “Allah (swt) put her love in my heart.” In another hadith narrated by Ahmed At-Tirmidhi, Aisha (ra) said, “The Messenger of Allah used to many times not leave his home, without praising Khadija. This is amazing, how much love Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) had for her. One of the days he praised her, and out of jealousy, I said, “Was she not but an elder woman, that Allah has replaced her for you with what is better.” He became angered and said, “No! By Allah, he did not replace me with anyone better. For she had faith in me, when the people rejected, she believed me, when the people belied me. She made comfortable with what she had, when the people denied me and Allah has blessed me with children from her.’”
Narrated Aisha (ra): "Never did I feel jealous of any wife among the wives of Allah's Apostle (saw) as I feel in case of Khadija (though I had never seen her), for he praised her very often."
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So Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would become angry when he would hear anything against Khadija (ra). And this shows us an aspect of the personality of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), his loyalty to the people who were close to him. This is years after Khadija passed away. I mean opportunist people and they take advantage of a person. And whenever that person was gone, that’s the end of that relationship. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would always remember his old friends or relatives; Hamza ibn Abdul Muttalllib, Khadija (Ra), Musab ibn Umair.
These Sahaba, in fact, Subannallah, one amazing thing that brings a person to tears. Before Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) passed away, one of the last things he did, was go and visit the cemetery of his friends who died in the Battle of Uhud. Because 70 companions, who died in the battle of Uhud, when Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) felt that he would be leaving duniya soon, he went to the cemetery and made dua for them, and he was saying in that dua that, “soon we will meet.” Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) was missing them so much. And he was asking Allah (swt) to bring him with them and to join them together in Jannah. So Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) has this strong relationship and loyalty. And he never forgot his wife Khadija who stood with him in moments of difficulty. He never forgot that. He would continuously make dua for her, and mention her name.
And Khaidja (ra) was a special person. Khaidja (ra), when she was living, Jibrael descended on Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) and said, “Khadija is going to approach you now, and she is carrying for you some food. When she arrives, tell her, that Allah is giving her salaam, and tell her, that I am giving her salaam.” That is how special Khadija was. Allah (swt) sends down Jibrael (as) to tell Khadija, that I am giving Salam to you, and Jibrael is then adding his own salam to the statement. And telling Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), and tell her that Jibril is giving her his salams. And then, Jibrael (as) says, “And give her the glad tidings of a palace in Paradise.” So, she was granted a place in Jannah. Khadija (ra) is one of the four greatest women that ever lived. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) says, “That the greatest women that ever set foot on the face of the Earth are four; Mariam bint Imran, Khadija bint Khauwaylid, Fatima bint Muhammed, Aasiya bint Muzahim.” These are the greatest women.
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The greatest among them is Mariam (as), by the verse in Qur’an. Al-IMRAN (3:42)
And [mention] when the angels said, "O Mary, indeed Allah has chosen you and purified you and chosen you above the women of the worlds”
Surat 'Al-Imran (Family of Imran) Chapter 3: Verse 42
“Oh Mariam, Allah (swt) has chosen you above all of the women of the world.” By the statement of Qur’an.
Second is Khadija. She’s number two, so the second greatest women.
Number three, Fatima bint Muhammed (ra) and
Number four Asiya bint Muzahim (ra).
And all of these four women had something to do with a Nabi. Two of them were mothers of Anbiya, or actually, ones who brought up Anbiya. Mariam (as) brought up Issa, she was his mother. And Asiya, she brought up Musa (as). And then, Khadija was the wife of a nabi, and Fatima was the daughter of a nabi.
Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), number one, reached the age of 25, and he was, in his seerah, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) was known as being chaste in an environment that is corrupt. and the reason why I’m bringing this up is because some of the orientalists, the ones who are professional enemies of Islam, they use that as a, their animosity towards Islam. It is there role in life. They try to attack the person of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). And one of the areas that they attack is his marriage life. They talk about, about his marriage to Aisha (ra), they talk about the fact that he married 12 women and they try to accuse Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) of being a womanizer. So, let’s look at the marriage life of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). Let’s study it.
Prophet Mohammed's (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) Married Life
The Different Types of Relationships Before Islam
1. Number one, Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) reaches to the age of 25 in an environment where (zina) adultery and fornication was widespread. You might have read the hadith of Aisha, which was in Bukhari, in which she talks about the four different relationships that existed between men and women. One of them is the traditional marriage, the other one was brothels that were legal in Mecca and they would have flags on top of them as signs for anyone who is interested in this corrupt behavior. And then they had this other type of relationship where a woman would sleep with a group of men, that could go up to 10 and then if she becomes pregnant and she delivers, then she can call these men in and say that, she could just pick anyone out of them and say that you are the father of the child. They had this strange relationship where a man would allow his wife to sleep with a noble man in order to have some noble lineage.
So, it was quite a corrupt environment. A young man would party and sleep with women that they have no legal relationship with. Rusool Allah (saw) lives up to the age of 25, and he was able to fight the tide, and stay away from all of this corruption. All the way till he reached the age of 25. So, that’s number one.
2. Number two, at the age of 25, he chooses to marry a woman, who is 15 years older than himself, and she is a widow, or divorced. Now Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) being from the noble family of Banu Hashim, he could have chosen for himself any woman he wanted in Mecca. And if he was interested in these desires, he would have chosen for himself a young woman to marry, rather than marrying a lady who is 15 years older than him. She was 40 years old when Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married her.
3. Number three, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) remains with (Khadija) Ayesha (ra) until he reaches the age of 50. And we know that the age in which men would have strong desires towards a woman would be from a young age till around the age of 50. I mean, that’s the young age of a man when the desires will be the strongest. So, for Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to remain married to Khadija (ra), in a very happy marriage. And is not reported at all that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) had any intentions of marrying anybody else. He didn’t even contemplate the idea. There are no reports of that. So, for Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to continue with Khadija (ra) from the age of 25 to the age of 50, it is a clear indication that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) had none of those thoughts in his mind. And I think this completely destroys that argument.
Khadija (ra) passes away. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) remained as a bachelor for about 2-3 years. Later on, he marries another widow, Saida Sawdah (ra). The reasons for him marrying Sawda, are because Sawdah (ra) was in Abyssinia, she came back to Mecca, and her husband passed away. So, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) out of his care for his companions, he married her. Husband dies, she doesn’t have anyone to provide for her, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) marries her and she was quite old in age. Because later on, in Medina, we know that Sawdah (ra) ended up giving up her night to Aisha (ra), because she was very old of age. (Note 3)
Suddenly, within the last ten years of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married many women, to the extent that when he died he left behind nine widows. So how come this change? From the age of 25 to 50, he only married Khadija (ra). But then, within the last ten years of his life, well the last, it’s 10 years because for 2 or 3 years he was unmarried. For the last ten years of his life, he marries and he leaves behind nine widows. What is the reason?
Reasons Why Prophet Mohammed (sal Allahu Alahi wa Sallam) Married
1. Number one; Forging alliances with different tribes. When we study the marriage life of Rusool Allah(sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) we need to look at the life of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) comprehensively. The Messenger of Allah, Mohammed (saw) devoted all of his efforts, underline (all), all of his efforts for the promotion of Islam. Everything that he would do, even his decisions in marriage would be based on the benefit of Islam. Whatever Rusool Allah (saw) did in his life, the intention of it was to promote the religion of Allah (swt). He wouldn’t do anything purely to satisfy his human desires. He would do it to please Allah ( عز وجل). Therefore, we need to look at his marriage life in this light. He married a few of his wives to forge alliances with different tribes. To bring them closer to Islam, like his marriage of Juwairiya, which ended up making the whole tribe of Banul Mustaliq become Muslim. Notes 4 & 5
Caring for His Companions
2. Number two; caring for his companions, his followers: like the example we gave of Sawdah (ra).
Strengthen Ties with Close Companions
3. Number three; Rusool Allah (saw) wanted to strengthen his ties, with his closest companions. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) had a strong brotherly feeling towards his companions, and there was a special group among them, whom Rusool Allah (saw) wanted to have a stronger relationship, and this is not only an Islamic brotherhood, but to add to it family ties. And for someone who did not experience Islamic brotherhood, it’s difficult for them to appreciate this. What if you have lived like Rusool Allah (saw) with his companions for 23 years? What bond would develop between them? They were, Subannallah, together in moments of ease and moments of difficulty. On the battlefields and in times of peace, they would eat together, they would travel together. They, the relationship that Rusool Allah (saw) had with the Sahaba (ra) was so strong. When we get into the Madina era, and we talk about the time which Rusool Allah (saw) passed away and the feelings that were in Medina. The feelings of loss that the people of Medina had, it is something that we cannot even describe. So, Rusool Allah (saw) wanted to strengthen the relationship between him and his close companions.
Now the two most controversial marriages of Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) are his marriages to Aisha and, his marriage to Zainab bint Jahsh. These are the most targeted marriages by Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). We don’t have a lot of complain about his marriage with Um Salama, or Um Habiba, or Sawda. But there is a lot of attack directed at his marriage to Aisha (ra) and Zainab bin Jahsh. Aisha (ra) because Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married her when she was at the age of six, and the marriage was consummated at the age of nine. And the attack against Zainab is because she was married to his adopted son, and then Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married her later on. So, these are the two marriages where you have a lot of controversy. So, let’s look at these two particular cases.
SubhanAllah, it so happens that the two particular marriages that are targeted, are the only two marriages of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) that were divinely instructed. None of the other marriages of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) were instructed by Allah except these two. His marriage to Zainab was instructed in Qur’an in SURAH AHZAB in (33:37)
And [remember, O Muhammad], when you said to the one on whom Allah bestowed favor and you bestowed favor, "Keep your wife and fear Allah ," while you concealed within yourself that which Allah is to disclose. And you feared the people, while Allah has more right that you fear Him. So when Zayd had no longer any need for her, We married her to you in order that there not be upon the believers any discomfort concerning the wives of their adopted sons when they no longer have need of them. And ever is the command of Allah accomplished.
When Zaid left her, we commanded you to marry her. So, it’s in Qur’an.
And the marriage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to Aisha (ra) was divinely inspired through the dream Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) saw. And this dream is mentioned in Bukhari. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) says, “Jibrael came to me and I saw you (Aisha) covered behind a silk curtain, or you were wearing a silk dress. And when I would uncover you, this is before Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) marries her, when I uncovered you, I saw you. And Jibrael told me, ‘this is your wife.” So Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) saw a woman, and when he took a look at her, it was Aisha. And then Jibrael told him, this is your wife in duniya and in Akhirah.’” And Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) saw this dream twice. And we know that the dreams of the Anbiya are revelations. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, that the dreams of Anbiya are revelations. So, the marriage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to Aisha is instructed by Allah, and the marriage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to Zainab was instructed by Allah.
So, we have two types of people, who would attack this. One type would be Muslims who have weak faith, and they wonder how Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would do something like this. The response to them would be, it wasn’t Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) that did it. He was commanded by Allah to do it. So, as a Muslim do you believe in the commandments of Allah or not? It was an exceptional situation that is not allowed for you. That’s why it is not part of the sunnah of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to, we cannot marry more than four. It’s not part of the sunnah that we follow. And also, His situation with Aisha (ra), is also something that is not allowed for us. It was an exceptional that was allowed for Rusool allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) for particular reasons, which I will talk about. But for Muslims, this would be the response. That these were divinely commanded by Allah (عز وجل), therefore, we have no right to question them. It wasn’t something that was initiated by Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). It was done by Allah.
Now for the ones who are not Muslim, and who are attacking Rusool Allah’s (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) and saying that this is an act of, all of the horrible accusations that are directed at Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). The response will be that your problem is not really Rusool Allah married to Aisha. Your problem is that you don’t believe he’s the Messenger of Allah. You don’t believe that he’s receiving revelation. So, your problem runs deeper. The issue of bringing up Aisha is just a front in order to attack Islam. Even if Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) didn’t do it, you would still be attacking. You could say that this was divinely instructed, but the response will be, how convenient it is, whenever there is something strange, you say that God commanded it. That could be a response. I mean, so these particular two marriages that we are attacking, you say that God was the one who instructed them. The response will be that we need to discuss the issue of if Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) was a Prophet of Allah (swt) or not. And that would settle the argument. If he’s the prophet of Allah, then we have no right to question what Allah (swt) told him what to do. I mean, if, we establish that He was a Messenger of Allah. We say that he receives revelation from Allah, then whatever Allah (swt) tells him what to do, we should accept it. I mean, if Allah (swt) tells one of us to stand against the wall with one feet up in the air until we die, we have no right to question that. I mean, it’s God who is instructing us to do it. Who am I to go against what my creator wants me to do? the Creator of all the worlds. Allah owes nothing to us, and we owe everything to Him. Therefore, if something is instructed by Allah, I don’t think I have to understand why it is that I’m instructed to do this. I just have to do it. So, I hope that we get the point here. Is that the enemies of Islam are attacking the marriage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to Aisha (ra), even if that didn’t happen the attacking would still continue because their problem is that they don’t believe in Islam. They don’t believe that Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) is a Messenger of Allah. They don’t believe that He was receiving revelation from Allah. So, it’s pointless to argue on the point of Aisha (ra), because there is a major problem. And that is they don’t accept Him all together.
And that would take us back to the accusations of Quraish that were thrown at Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). Allah ( عز وجل ) revealed (Surah Al-An’am)
"We know that you, [O Muhammad], are saddened by what they say. And indeed, they do not call you untruthful, but it is the verses of Allah that the wrongdoers reject."
They are not disbelieving you, they are disbelieving in the message of Allah. They are attacking you because you are the Messenger. They’re not attacking your personality just because of your personality, they’re attacking you because you’re conveying the message of Allah to them. So, these are attacks that are hurdled at Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) are because He is the Messenger of Allah (swt)
Now, the marriage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to Aisha (ra), how come it was so important? Let me make this statement first. One of the greatest blessings of Allah on us as Muslims, again, one of the greatest blessings of Allah on us as Muslims is that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married Aisha (ra). This particular marriage that some people, who have doubts in their heart, due to the fact that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married a girl who is 6 years old, they do not realize that it would have been a disaster on the Ummah, if Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) did not marry Aisha (ra). It is one of the best things that happened to us.
Aisha (ra) had a mind of a scholar; she had very bright mind, very intelligent. And she had an inquisitive nature. Aisha (ra) describes herself and says, “The companions of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) used to hear the hadith of Rusool Allah and they would immediately follow it, while I would ask Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) questions about it.” Aisha (ra) being the wife of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) and being the most beloved of his wives, had this informal relationship with Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), so she could afford to question him and ask him. While the others were very respectful of Rusool Allah, and they wouldn’t dare do that.
So, it needed somebody who had this intimate relationship with Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to be able to ask questions and able to inquire of the certain statements of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam).
And you remember we talked about Amr bin Aas, and we said how much he loved Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). And when he was dying he said, “If you would ask me to describe the, to you Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), I wouldn’t be able to do so because I had so much love, and admiration and respect for him, I lived with him for years, and I couldn’t even look him straight in the eye, because of the deep respect that I had for Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam).” (Note 6)
But Aisha (ra) being very young playful at that age, and having a very close relationship with Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), Rusool Allah would say something, and she would ask, and she would argue with Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). No one else could afford to do that. So, we learned so much because of that. Plus, Aisha (ra) had the mind of a scholar. And she became one of the greatest scholars of Islam. Among the top seven narrators of hadith, Aisha comes number four. Aisha is one of the top seven narrators of hadith of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam).
Number one is Abu Huraira, 5,000 plus. Number two, Abdullah bin Umar, 2,600. Number three, Anas ibn Malik. Number four, Aisha (ra), 2,200. (Notes 7, 8 & 9)
So, really the differences between rank four, three, and two is not much. Abu Huraira is the one who is outstanding, he’s almost double the second place.
Open any book of fiqh, it’s impossible to study a book of fiqh without going through the name of Aisha (ra), her narration and her opinions in fiqh. In every fiqh, Hanafi, Shafi, Hambali, Maliki. Aisha (ra), her knowledge is there. So, we have learned so much from Aisha (ra). It was the best thing of Allah, that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would marry Aisha (ra). And it was, just as it was a divine inspiration to Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), and maybe He didn’t think about it before. It was surprise to Abu Bakr. When Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) went and proposed to Abu Bakr that He wants to marry his daughter. Abu Bakr Siddiq was surprised. He (ra) said, “I am your brother.” Meaning we are very close in age. I am your brother. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “You are my brother, and your daughter is appropriate for me.” This was a command from Allah ( عز وجل). And Subannallah, it was a blessing from Allah ( عز وجل) on this Ummah. Sometimes, something would appear to be in a certain way, however, if we’d just did a little bit deeper, we would see something completely different. You might dislike something, but there is a lot of good for you in it. So, we should be very proud and happy that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married Aisha (ra), and we should be thankful to Allah (swt) that that happened. Rather than having these doubts in our hearts and having this fear and inhibition. It is a blessing of Allah ((عز وجل) on us.
Just a final comment, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), did not marry any virgin women except Aisha (ra), and Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) never married any woman who is young except Aisha (ra). It was an exceptional case. If we want to study the married life of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) that was initiated by him, we need to look at every wife except those to Aisha and Zainab. And you’ll know who are the women Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married. Sawda, we forgot to mention Umm Habiba (ra). Umm Habiba, she’s the one who migrated to Abyssinia, and her husband Ubaidah bin Jahsh converted to Christianity, and she went through a miserable time, very difficult moments on Umm e Habiba, being the daughter of Abu Sufyan, the head of Quraish. So, later on, her husband passed away, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) sent a message, letter with Amr bin Umayya Ad Dhamri, to An-Najashi, asking An-Najashi to marry him (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to Umm Habiba (ra). Because Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) had sympathy for what Umm Habiba went through. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) wanted to marry her, even though she was hundreds of miles of away. The scholars say that was the furthest marriage of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). She was in Abisyyinah and He was in Medina. That was symbolic, to a, first of all to take care of Umm Habiba, also Umm Habiba was the daughter of Abu Sufian, so Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) wanted to bring the staunchest enemies of Islam closer. He wanted to soften their stance. And when Abu Sufyan heard of the news that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married his daughter, even though, Abu Sufian was now the leader of the Quraish, he was their leader in fighting Islam, Abu Sufian was happy that this marriage took place. He said, “And who is better to marry than Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam).” I mean, Abu Sufian knows the lineage of Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), so, that’s how he looks at it. This is the, from Banu Hashim, this is an honor for us to marry our daughter to someone from Banu Hashim. Our issue with Him, is because of religion. So, he was proud and happy that his daughter got married to Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). So, that softened Abu Sufyan a little bit. It brought them closer to Islam. And Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) also intended in taking of Umm Habiba (ra) in that difficult moment that she was going through.
Another marriage was to Umm e Salama (ra). Umm e Salama (ra) also was one of the ones, who made hijrah to Abyssinia, then they came back they went to Medina. Later on, Abu Salama passed away; Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) married Umm e Salama. So, he would take care of the wives of his companions who died; and these are older women, but Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) is the Father of this Ummah. Just like his wives are called Mothers of the Ummah.
What’s the name given to the wives of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam)? The Mothers of The Believers. So, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) viewed himself as a caretaker of this ummah, even if he doesn’t have a direct blood-relationship with the members of this Ummah, he (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) still felt that he’s their father. So, he would take care of their needy, he would take care of the hungry. And that’s a statement that, in the conversation that happened between Asmaa bin Masara and Omar Al-Khattab (ra), when Omar Al-Khattab said, “We have more wives of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) than you. Because we made Hijra before you.” Asmaa bin Masara, had just arrived from Abyssinia. Asmaa bin Masara responded by saying, “No, that’s not true.” You were with Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), he was feeding the hungry among you. And was teaching the ignorant among you. So Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) was the father of this Ummah. And that is how his marriage life, even is a reflection of that.
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Flooding at Al-Kaaba
Flooding in 1941
An important event occurred during the prophet hood of Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). A flood has affected the structure of Al-Kaaba. Al-Kaaba is located in a low valley between mountains. And Mecca was once flooded. And the flood has caused cracks in the walls of Al-Kaaba. So, the people of Quraish felt the need to rebuild Al-Kaaba again. Now Al-Kaaba has been built and rebuilt five or four times, depending on who was the first to build it. There’s a difference in opinion on whether Ibrahim (as) was the first to build Al-Kaaba. Some scholars refer to our father, Adam (as) as the first one to build Al-Kaaba. However, the majority opinion is that it was Ibrahim (as) was who first built it.
Now the ones who say that Adam (as) was the first one to build it, say we are not contradicting Quran, because Quran says in Surah BAQARAH (2:127)
"And [mention] when Abraham was raising the foundations of the House and [with him] Ishmael, [saying], "Our Lord, accept [this] from us. Indeed You are the Hearing, the Knowing."
They say that Quran states that Ibrahim was raising the foundations of the house, meaning there was already something there, for him to raise above it. So, they say that the house, the foundation was established in the time of Adam (as). But the common belief among our scholars is was Ibrahim (as) who first built it. However, there is no dispute in the holiness of this House since it was created. I mean, all of our scholars say even if it wasn’t Adam who first built it, the place was sacred, was holy, and was visited by the Prophets of Allah. So, they say it use to be like a small hill which was destined as a sacred and holy place. And the Anbiya of Allah would visit it.
And we have references of quite a few Anbiya (as) visiting the House of Allah. There is a hadith that Hud (as) visited Al-Kaaba. There’s a hadith that states that Saleh visited, Nuh. And there’s a saying attributed to Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) that Isa (as), when he comes down, again, when he descends to Earth, His second-coming, he will make Hajj. So, it’s either Adam or Ibrahim (as) who first built Al-Kaaba, but it was, we all know it was the first House built for the remembrance of Allah. AL-IMRAN (3:96)
Indeed, the first House [of worship] established for mankind was that at Makkah - blessed and a guidance for the worlds.
The first House established for My Worship was the one in Mecca. Mecca is also another name for Makkah.
So, you have Adam and Ibrahim. Let’s start counting from Ibrahim (as). So, Ibrahim (as) is the first. Second time was this time that we’re talking about now. So, when Mecca was flooded. The people of Quraish wanted to re-build it. They gathered together, they had to tear it down. But none of them agreed to make that move. So, they were all waiting, getting ready with their equipment around Al-Kaaba, but no one wants to go ahead and start breaking it down, that is how much honor and respect they had for Al-Kaaba. And there’s a thing, at the time they were Mushrikeen. But they feared Allah (swt), and they thought that it’s a dangerous thing to tear down the walls of Al-Kaaba. And then, one of them said, “I will be the first to do it”. And he gathered all of his sons, and they came early in the morning. And they started bringing the rocks of Al-Kaaba down and they were saying, “Oh Allah, don’t be afraid, all what we want is good.” “Oh Allah, don’t be afraid, all what we want is good.” So, you can see their false understanding of the divinity of Allah (swt). I mean, they were trying to calm God by saying don’t be afraid, all what we want is good. Allah (swt) knows what’s in your heart, you don’t have to tell Him that. So, even though they believed in Allah, but they, in the terms of the attributes of Allah. They had some problems with that.
So, they brought down the walls of Al-Kaaba. Now it happened that there was a Roman ship that crashed on a port on the Red Sea close to Mecca. So, they brought some of the wood on that ship and there was a Roman builder who was on that ship, so they also had him help with the wood. So, this was the first time they made the roof of Al-Kaaba, the ceiling of Al-Kaaba from wood. They used some of the wood from this ship. Now the people of Quraish, they knew that money from interest was no good, and they made a decision that they’re only going to use halaal money in the re-building of Al-Kaaba. They’re not going to use money from interest or money from prostitution. Because at the time, to show their corruptness, and by the way, there’s a hadith narrated by Bukhari, that Aisha (ra) talks about the marriages that existed in Arabia. It’s on page 4 , you can refer to it later on. But the prostitution was something that existed. And you have men hiring their slave girls as an income generating source for them. But they knew that this was not good. They would do it, they would deal with interest, but they knew that this was not good. So, they decided that they are not going to use this money in the re-building of Al-Kaaba. Since they ran short of funds, they ended up shortened Al-Kaaba. You know Al-Kaaba was a bit of a rectangle, rather than a square. It was rectangular in shape. Because the people of Quraish ran short of funds, they ended up shortening Al-Kaaba from one side. So, they made it a square rather than a rectangle to save money. The area of Al-Kaaba which they left out, was what we refer today as Al-Hijr. The enclosed area in that seni-circle, if you’ve ever visited Al-Kaaba, you would see that on one side of Al-Kaaba there’s a semi-circle. That use to be part of the original building of Al-Kaaba. Also, Al-Kaaba had two gates, they made it one, and they raised the doorstep. So, now in order to get access to the door, you have to climb. The gate was made very high. (Note 10)
Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) says in a hadith “Don’t you know”, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) is talking to Aisha, “Don’t you know that your people had insufficient funds for the expenses, if it were not for the fact that your people were only recently unbelievers, I would have torn down the Kaaba and made for it one door on the east and the other on the west. And I would have included the hijr area within it.” When Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) opened Mecca, he (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) was thinking about reconstructing Kaaba on the original foundations. But then he told Aisha (ra): “The reason I’m not going to do this is because your people just became Muslim, their Islam is soft, their iman is weak, and it might be a fitnah for them, it might cause them a problem if I reconstruct Al-Kaaba.” So, he didn’t do it.
There’s an important lesson to learn from this hadith and that is that the daa’ia used to take the condition of the people into consideration. Even though Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) wanted to do this, but he didn’t, because he was worried that it would affect the iman of the people. So, as a person who is calling to Islam, you need to take into consideration the condition of the people that you’re directing the message to. Abdullah bin Musud says, “If you tell the people something that is beyond their comprehension, or understanding, or imaan it might be a trial for some of them.” It might cause a backlash with some people. Sometimes we throw out information on a particular subject which is absolutely true and valid but because the people are not ready for it yet, because their iman is weak, it causes a backlash with them. Somethings people are just unable to grasp.
Now Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said that, “Your people (Quraish), the reason why they made the door of Al-Kaaba high is because they wanted to have control on who would go in and out.” It was an issue of power. They didn’t want to make the door low because it would be accessible to anyone. They made it high so they could control who would go in and out. It’s a matter of influence, having authority. So, the door of Al-Kaaba was raised. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “If I would rebuild it, I would lower the gate, and I would make for it two gates, so that the people come from one side and leave from the other.” Rather than having to come and out from the same door.
Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) participated in the rebuilding of Al-Kaaba, and at that time he was maybe around 35 years old, that’s a rough estimate. So now, the people of the Quraish are building the Kaaba, they reach the holiest part of Al-Kaaba which is, ‘the Black Stone.’ And now dispute erupts among them. Who will have the honor to place the Black Stone in its spot. Because when they were rebuilding Al-Kaaba, every tribe took responsibility of building one side of it. They all wanted to participate in this honor. But with the “Black Stone”, they disputed. Every tribe wanted to have the honor of putting it in its place. Banu Abdul Dar, they gathered all their men in front of Al-Kaaba with a pot of blood, and they placed it in front of everyone and they all stuck their hands in the blood and pulled it out. In other words, they were telling everyone that this is what will happen, if we don’t place the Black Stone in its place. So, it’s like pledging to die and to fight. We will do it, or otherwise, this is what will happen. Blood will flow. Even though that was a drastic measure, and quite a threat, but that wasn’t enough to deter others. Another tribe, they went and got their own pot of blood, and they started sticking their hands in and pulling it out. And then, everyone was bringing their own pots of blood and it was four or five days, they couldn’t solve the problem, and war was about to erupt between them. And then, the eldest man among them, Umayya, he has a suggestion. He came and said, “Let’s agree that the first man to walk in towards Al-Kaaba will be given complete authority in judging between us.” So they all gathered around Al=Kaaba, waiting for the first person to come in.
And the first person to walk in was Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). They all stoop up and said, “The truthful and the trustworthy, we all agree.” Now they had agreed that they would give complete authority to the first person to come in, but they were so happy that this the person was Muhammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). Because they knew that he will not be biased in his ruling. Now it would be expected if someone came from a particular family he would give authority to his family to place it in its place. I mean, that was the expected thing, that we’re going to leave it randomly for the first one to come in and his family would take it. But when they saw that it was Mohammed (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), they were so happy because they know his fairness. So they told him we give you complete authority in solving this dispute.
Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) asked them to bring a robe, a piece of cloth. He (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) picked up the black stone, and he (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) placed it on this cloth. And then, he asked a representative from each clan to hold the cloth from one side. And then, they all raised it up together in the same time; therefore. every one of them will participate in lifting the Black Stone. And when they all lifted it up, then he, with his blessed hands picked up the Black Stone and placed it in its place. So, it was Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) who put the Black Stone in its spot. So, that’s the second time, Al-Kaaba was re-built. (Note 11)
Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) opened Mecca, and then said, if it wasn’t for the fact that the people are new Muslims, I would have rebuilt it, on the foundations of Ibrahim (as). Years later Abdullah bin Az-Zubair became the Ameer of Mecca, he knew of this hadith, because Aisha (ra) was his aunt. Abdullah bin Az-Zubairs’s mother is Asma bin Abi Bakr, the sister of Aisha (ra). So, Aisha was his aunt. And he was familiar with this hadith. So, he decided to rebuild Al’Kaaba on the original foundations, because now the people have been Muslim for a long time. They are not new Muslims anymore, they will be able to handle the situation. He diecided that he’s going to rebuild Al-Kaaba, especially that Al-Kaaba was burnt, because Al Hajjaj bin Yousuf As-Saqafi has laid siege on Mecca. At that time, there was a war between Abdullah bin Az-Zubair and Banu Umayya in Syria. And the army general of Banu Umayya has laid siege to Mecca. And one of the catapults has hit Al-Kaaba, and it caused some damage and it burned. Now that damage could have been fixed without tearing down AL-Kaaba, but Abdullah bin Az-Zubair wanted to take advantage and rebuild Al-Kaaba on the original foundations, which he did. And he fulfilled the description that was given my Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) in the hadith. That he (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would lower the gate, and have a east door and a western door, and expand the size of Al-Kaaba towards Al-Hijr, which he did. So, that’s the third time, Al-Kaaba was rebuilt.
Abdullah bin Az-Zubair ended up losing the war and he was killed. Al Hajja bin Yusuf took over. The khalifa at that time, Abdul Malik ibn Marwan, was not familiar with this hadith so he gave his commands to take back Al-Kaaba to the way it was before Abdullah bin Zubair. So, Al=Kaaba was shortened again according to the way the people of Quraish built it. After the Khilafah of Banu Umayya, Banu Abbas were the family of Khulafah. One of the Khulafa of Banu Abbas was thinking about rebuilding Al-Kaaba again, on the original foundations. And he consulted Imam Malik, Imam Malik told the Khalifa, and he gave him, he gave him a very wise answer. He said, “We don’t want Al-Kaaba to be a toy in the hands of Kings, they keep changing its size every now and then. Even though the plan of Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) and his desire was to build it on the foundation of Ibrahim, but let’s keep it the way it is and not change it anymore.” So, ___ was going back and forth on the foundations of Ibrahim, and then the way Quraish built it, and then again on the foundations of Ibrahim. Imam Malik said that the people have known Al-Kaaba, and they know these stones the way they are, don’t keep on changing it. Keep it the way it is. And that was a very wise advice from Imam Malik, which the Khalifa followed. So, the Kaaba that we have today are built on the foundations of Ibrahim or the foundation of Quraish? Quraish. But that’s something good. Why? If Al-Kaaba was built on the original foundations of Ibrahim, we would have been deprived the chance of praying inside Al-Kaaba. But since it is shortened, that area which is enclosed by the semi-circle is actually part of Al-Kaaba. So, when you pray in that area, it is as if you have prayed inside Al-Kaaba. And we know that Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) did pray inside Al-Kaaba. When he (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) opened Mecca, he prayed inside Al-Kaaba. He prayed eight rakats inside Al-Kaaba. So, now we have a chance to pray in Al-Hijr. Otherwise, you would have to get permission to get in Al-Kaaba. It would be very cumbersome and difficult. But now, we can pray inside Al-Hijr, and it will count as if you prayed in Al-Kaaba. (Notes 12 & 13)
Al-Kaaba Over the Last 100 years
Now over the time, the height of Al-Kaaba has increased, but the size of it has remained constant. Now with the stones that Al-Kaaba are built from, many of them are remnants of the original stones that were used by Ibrahim (as), but not all of them. Some other ones were introduced later by Quraish and others.
But the Black Stone is the original stone that was used by Ibrahim (as). The Black Stone has never changed. It is the original stone that was given to Ibrahim (as). And there are many stories about, the Black Stone, itself. Some say it was originated from Jennah. There is a hadith that is authentic, that says the Black Stone was white, but then it turned black because of the sins of the sons of Adam. And there is a hadith that says that the Black Stone is the right hand of Allah, on Earth. So the Black Stone is very special. It’s very honored, and it’s very respected. And it’s the only part of Al-Kaaba that is kissed and the only part of Al-Kaaba that is pointed at from a distance. Some people point out to the Yemeni corner, which is wrong. The Yemeni corner you can touch it when you’re passing by it, but one should not point towards it or greet it from a distance. That is only for the Black Stone.
So, this is the history of Al-Kaaba.
The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would leave Mecca, and spend times, he would go out of Mecca, and spend time in the cave of Hira. In a mountain that is fairly close to Mecca, a few kilometers away from Mecca. Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would take with him provisions, some food, and he would go and stay in conclusion, solitude in this cave worshiping Allah (swt). And from the cave, it is said, that you are able to Kaaba in those old days. So, Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would spend days and nights, continuously, in the cave worshiping Allah before prophet hood. So, he knew Allah (swt), and he was worshiping Allah (swt) in that cave. And this was a chance for Rusool Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) to do reflection and contemplation on the creation of Allah. And this was training for him (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). Allah (swt), was training him through these moments of reflection and contemplation because they purify the heart.