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Parenting TecHies Links and Helps

HELPFUL LINKS AND RESOURCES

Focus on the Family resources and Parent Guide

Home and Device Protection Resources

Setting Up Parental Controls Within Devices

One hour a day, one day a week, one week a year—set it all aside.

Technology Workshop Notes

PARENT:

1. a father or a mother.

2. an ancestor, precursor,

3. a source, origin, or cause.

4. a protector or guardian.

Technology, like many things can be used for good and evil. It is our job to manage the danger and protect and equip our families to navigate this ever-changing climate.

PROTECT: RESTRICT | FILTER | MONITOR | LIMIT

What example are we setting?

More than half of teenagers say that they "wish my parents would pay more attention to me and not their phone."

What if we disconnected as families:

ONE HOUR A DAY, ONE DAY A WEEK, ONE WEEK A YEAR

What Do We Need To Protect Our Children And Teens From?

Pornography

Nearly 80% of unwanted exposure to pornography is taking place in the home. (79 percent occurs in the home; 9 percent occurs at school; 7 percent other/unknown; 5 percent at a friend's home)(http://internetsafety101.org)

" Over half of pornography is viewed with cell phones.

" 83% of pornography seen by children happens ACCIDENTALLY! This is why we must protect all our devices.

Cyberbullying

The impact is huge. Kids are losing their lives.

64% of teens say cyberbullying affects their ability to learn and feel safe at school.

Sexting

51% of girls felt pressure from a guy to send sexual text messages.

34% of girls sent sexual text messages to try and feel "sexy" or more attractive.

(Source: GuardChild.com)

Ways Phones And Technology Can Be Used For Good

1. Can be a way to connect with your child - sending messages, etc.

2. Feeling of security in knowing communication is available, even when we are not together.

3. A world of information at your fingertips.

4. And so much more...

Harmful uses of devices and technology.

1. Access to anything on the web

2. No Air-Filter; Cyberbullying

3. Mis-Connections

4. Untrue True Love

5. Undeveloped Relationship Skills

6. Masquerading

7. Lack of Sleep

8. Sexting

The list could go on and on…

Boundaries

1. Set times.

2. It's a privilege.

3. Parents own the device.

4. Charge it in the kitchen.

5. Know all their accounts and passwords and check them regularly.

6. Trust, but verify.

7. Be friends on social networks.

8. Start while they are young.

9. Know who they are connecting with.

10. Check it at the door.

11. Sign on the dotted line…A Contract

How to talk to your children about limits and boundaries

The most important thing is their heart. They need to know you love them…really love them… Your relationship means more than anything. Be engaged. Give them your time. They may think you are strict and say that all their friends are allowed to do this or that, but if they understand you are doing this because you love and care about them it is much easier. Later, they will thank you.

Parental Restrictions and Device Settings.

Depending on the type of device the steps are very different.

Links to instructions are at the top of this page.

Goals:

1. Web filtering software guarding the home and devices.

2. Social network monitoring.

3. Monitoring texts.

4. Location finder

Alternative to Smart Phone or Even Flip Phones: Gizmopal and Gizmogadget.

https://www.verizonwireless.com/connected-devices/lg/

Apps and Social Media

1. Snapchat

2. Facebook

3. Instagram

4. Twitter

5. Tumblr

6. Music.ly

7. Messaging Apps: WhatsApp, Kik

8. Live-Streaming Apps: Houseparty, Live.ly, YouNow, Live.me

9. Ipad Messaging

10. VSCO

11. Hidden Apps

Many of the hidden apps are rated at 4+

Video Games

1. Ratings http://www.pluggedin.com/

2. Violence

3. They are REACTIVE VS. PROACTIVE

4. Addiction

Immediate action steps for all your devices:

1. Go through and set the built in parent controls. (Disable the ability to install any apps.)

2. Go through every app and make sure you know what it does. If unsure, you do a web search.

3. Disable the YouTube app or turn the safety/strict filtering on.- YOUTUBE KIDS

4. Talk to your kids about the why as you set boundaries and restrictions.

5. Go to www.google.com/preferences and turn on Google safety.

Don't forget about these other huge influences on our families.

MUSIC

TV - Time/Content

Pornography

Statistics

1. In the U.S., 52% of pornography is accessed on smartphones; 10% on tablets.

The Inquisitr, December 26, 2013

2. 64% of American men view porn at least monthly, the percentage of Christian men is nearly the same.

3. Initial age of porn exposure - 11

4. A recent survey of 800 young people showed:

Most teenage boys view it 2-3 times per week, on their phone or bedroom computer.

2/3 of those between 11 and 13 had viewed porn

83% stumbled on it accidentally… IOL Lifestyle, September 3, 2013

5. 90% of teenagers have viewed porn.

80% of 15-17 year olds have been exposed to hard core porn.

67% of men and 59% of women said that porn was acceptable. (Campus Crusade for Christ staff. Christian Post, 7-16-2011)

6. 100% of 9th grade boys and 50% of girls surveyed by the Deputy Children's Commissioner in the UK were found to be accessing porn. HuffPost Lifestyle, May 7, 2013

7. 80% of US teens say porn is "too easy" to access or stumble upon on the internet.

8. 70% said porn was seen as normal by their peers at school.

9. 1 in 10 told their parents about stumbling on to porn on the internet. (ONLY 10%!)

10. 2/3 of girls and nearly 50% of boys said growing up would be easier if porn was harder to access. DailyMail, UK, August 19, 2014

11. Porn is a 13 billion dollar industry.

12. The US produces 89% of the world's pornography.

13. 70% of 18 to 34 year olds use porn once a month. From a Cosmopolitan survey, as quoted by Medical Daily, January 20, 2013

14. Orlando is the porn capital of the U.S.A. Men's Health drew statistics from DVD rentals, number of Adult stores, porn searches on Google and households that subscribed to Cinemax. Las Vegas was #2, Wilmington, NC was #3, Raleigh, NC was #4 and Charlotte, NC was #5. Source: Daily Mail, May 8, 2012.

A. Results of Porn:

1. 56% of divorce cases had one person who was hooked on porn.

2. More than 50% of porn internet users report losing interest in sex with their partner.

3. 40% of those who are sexually addicted lose their spouse.

4. 58% suffer financial loss.

5. 1/3 lose their jobs

6. Severe clinical depression was reported twice as frequently among porn users as compared to non-porn users. Christian Post, December 30, 2013

7. 90% of therapists see more problems related to porn use.

8. 94% of therapists have seen a rise in people addicted to porn.

B. Help & Accountability

1. Open DNS on the Home Internet opendns.com wi-fi protection only

2. Covenant Eyes: www.covenanteyes.com

3. EverAccountable: everaccountable.com

4. XXXChurch: www.xxxchurch.com