Here are some specific steps you can take to begin meeting your children where they are:
1. Listen attentively to your child by leaning forward, making eye contact, and asking questions about what they are telling you.
2. Take some time to think about how your child might be feeling or thinking. Here are some questions you can ask: 1. How might your child be feeling? 2. What is my child's behavior trying to tell me?
3. Respond in a way that acknowledges your child's feelings. Do this without suggestions, advice, or criticism. The message sent should be "I am interested in what you are feeling and thinking because I care about you."
When working with your children, it is important to have expectations that meet them where they are academically and socially. Because successful achievement leads to well-being and success with later tasks, setting realistic expectations is essential. To learn more about how to create developmentally appropriate expectations, click here!