This transition would mark a fundamental shift in anyone’s life, but especially in one that has already been established for twenty plus years. It hit Simon very hard and his reactions show that moving at any age can be hard and life changing in many ways. He described his feelings, and to anyone who has experienced a monumental change in this life, it would be relatable. Some days are better than others. Some days its feels like you’re on top of the world and some days you wonder if you can get out of bed. If you can smile and pretend to be happy or if you just don’t feel like pretending at all. Some days you laugh and are so full of exuberance that strangers wish they were your friends, because then they could be having that much fun too. And sometimes it just feels hopeless, like you are walking down a never ending path.
The Arboretum in Chapel Hill, North Carolina where Simon likes to spends time.
Many young people go through the struggle of their parents moving from their childhood home but few know the struggle of a move that big and truly life changing. A 28-hour plane ride is a seemingly unreachable distance and one that would prevent Simon from the frequent visits that he was used to during college. He never pictured himself as the type to go home regularly on weekends, but also never realized how much he would miss it now that it wasn’t an option. He could physically go back to his house in Cary, North Carolina but it was just not the same without his parents there, and knowing that they did not live there anymore was more than enough to make him upset and to think about how things used to be.
The last time that he was able to see his parents was six months ago and he faces hardships and challenges because of it. “Maintaining a daily routine is difficult and if I start to think about, then I start to get depressed. It has affected me more than I thought it would. Right after I had finally gotten comfortable at school, they moved. I felt like I had just worked out issues that I had been having and now I was having to deal with new issues that went with the central figure leaving the house.”
The hardest thing for Simon was that in the back of his mind he knew that he would have to come back to UNC with his parents in another country, whereas before they were only 30 minutes away. His entire support system that he had been depending on so much to make a smooth transition was uprooted and there was nothing that he could do about it. “If I feel like I can’t do it, I have no choice, and if I need support I can’t get it. My parents are only a phone call away but it is eye opening because I have to do things by myself now and look after my two sisters who are living with my grandma at a critical time in their growth and don’t have their parents around.”
“I get to visit a new place that is foreign and exciting but it doesn’t feel like home. If I have learned anything from my parents moving it would be that I believe that sometimes when we are forced into situations that we do not choose we may not always know it then, but they help us to grow and learn; and we are better off because of them. So here I am. I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do and what I can accomplish, but I am excited to figure it all out.”