You have now expanded upon your initial desire of wanting to do or be something; you now want to be good at is as well. Here we see a shift in the whole structure of our longing when we see this addition made. First, we want to do something because we desire it, we love it, it's our lifelong dream! Now we want to do something that others will desire, like, appreciate, or enjoy, we have gone beyond doing something solely for the reason of it being a desire. We might would want to say at this point that we desire both to do this thing AND for others to like it as well. Now compromise has been introduced into the equation, because to do it out of desire would be to do it however you choose, while on the other hand to do it so that others would like it, more times than not, is going to involve you changing your choices to suit their desires. So we find ourselves doing what others desire, which is as far away from loving and desiring something for ourselves as we can get.