Have you ever held a grudge so long that you forgot why you were mad?
“Ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin.
I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men” .
And ye ought to say in your hearts—let God judge between me and thee, and reward thee according to thy deeds.
(Doctrine and Covenants 64: 9–11)
Parable of the Unforgiving Servant
Then Peter came and said to him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Until seven times?"
Jesus said to him, "I don't tell you until seven times, but, until seventy times seven. Therefore the Kingdom of Heaven is like a certain king, who wanted to reconcile accounts with his servants. When he had begun to reconcile, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. But because he couldn't pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, with his wife, his children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down and knelt before him, saying, 'Lord, have patience with me, and I will repay you all!' The lord of that servant, being moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt.
"But that servant went out, and found one of his fellow servants, who owed him one hundred denarii, and he grabbed him, and took him by the throat, saying, 'Pay me what you owe!'
"So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, 'Have patience with me, and I will repay you!' He would not, but went and cast him into prison, until he should pay back that which was due. So when his fellow servants saw what was done, they were exceedingly sorry, and came and told to their lord all that was done. Then his lord called him in, and said to him, 'You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt, because you begged me. Shouldn't you also have had mercy on your fellow servant, even as I had mercy on you?' His lord was angry, and delivered him to the tormentors, until he should pay all that was due to him. So my heavenly Father will also do to you, if you don't each forgive your brother from your hearts for his misdeeds."
— Matthew 18:21-35
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland: ‘The Ministry of Reconciliation’
“With the apostolic authority granted me by the Savior of the world, I testify of the tranquility to the soul that reconciliation with God and each other will ring if we are meek and courageous enough to pursue it. ‘Cease to contend one with another,’ the Savior pled.”
The Gift of Forgiveness (Chris Williams' story)
As a teenage boy, White drove home from a basketball game after drinking earlier in the evening and hit Williams and his family, killing Williams' expectant wife and two of their children. Following the accident, White recalls attempting to slit his wrist in an effort to take his own life, while Williams recalls realizing that he had a big decision to make. Would he forgive the young man in the other car? Immediately into his mind came the words, “Let it go.” The very next day, Williams publicly forgave White.
Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”
~ Nelson Mandela
“Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.“
~ Mark Twain