Doug and Rachel Adoption is another word for love

A letter to You

Dear Birth Parents,

We have always been told growing up that, "when God closes a door, he opens a window". We thought the door was closed to us being parents after our struggle with infertility. Through a lot of prayer and some time to heal, God has led us to our window through adoption. We cannot completely understand what you are going through, but know that God is in charge and leading us all through this journey. We are excited to open our hearts and our home to your child. We pray everyday for you and your baby. We cannot wait to grow our family, not just with a baby, but also with you. We look forward to teaching a child about our family and our traditions, but also to include you and your family. We look forward to the day that we hear from you and are happy that you have taken the time to read our story and learn about us.

Adoption isn't a birth mother's rejection but an unconditional love that inspires her to put herself last and do all she can for her baby.

Meet Doug

I was born in Jackson, Michigan to John and Sue Trombley. My extended family lived and still lives in the Jackson and Detroit area in Michigan. My mom was a stay at home mom for most of my childhood and my dad was an x-ray technician.

Doug with his mother
Doug and his dad

Three years later, my twin brothers, James (Jim) and Matthew (Matt) were born. One of my favorite memories of my twin brothers was taking one of them out of their crib, putting them in the crib with the other brother and then climbing in with them to play.

Doug helping with his bothers

When I was seven, my father got a job at the Dodge City Hospital. My dad went ahead of the family to start his job, and so my mother packed us boys up and got on a train bound for Dodge City, Kansas. It was a big adventure for the whole family.

Doug's first communion picture taken in front of their house in Dodge.

I attended Sacred Heart Catholic School until the 6th grade. Holidays were very important in my family. My mom would make handmade chocolates for Easter and she made several Halloween costumes for me.

Doug and his brothers in the clown costumes that his mom made.
Doug as a toy soldier in his second grade music program.

Then I went to the Jr. High where I started playing the trombone and tried several sports. (I wasn't very good at sports, even though I love them!!)

Doug's attempt at cross country was not very successful. He came in second to last in every race.

I attended Dodge City High School and played in the marching band, pep band, and was in the drama club. It was at this time that my love for theater started. I was too shy to act on the stage (that would later change) so I worked backstage and helped build scenery.

Playing in the DCHS Band---I never missed playing for a single game!
Doug's High School Graduation

Upon graduating high school, I went on to Dodge City Community College and Fort Hays State University. I really enjoyed my health career classes and shadowing at the hospital. I earned an Associates in Arts and my Emergency Medical Technicians (EMT) License.

Doug has been an EMT for 18 years. He also is a certified CPR and First Aid Instructor.

Since I am a volunteer EMT, I also have a full time job working for Servi-Tech Labs. This is a crop testing facility. It's a very dirty job, but someone has to do it!

Doug's Hobbies

My brothers and I enjoy doing reenactments at Boot Hill Museum. I usually get to play the town drunk, tell jokes, and act really silly.

The 3 outlaws

I also still play my trombone in the local community band.

Even though I wasn't very good at running cross country, I have continued to run for fun. I run two miles every morning and I have run in several 5K races.

Doug and Rachel running in a very cold 5K!

I also enjoy traveling. Since my brother Matt is in the Coast Guard, he gets transferred to a new location every 3 years. I try to visit him at all of his stations.

Visiting my bother in Maine.

I enjoy watching all sports live and on television. Even if it is just watching my niece play softball. I am still a bit of a Michigan boy at heart, and my favorite sport is hockey.

I really enjoy spending time with the nephews building with Legos and going on adventures with them.

At the Lego convention in Oklahoma City with Doug's nephew Wyatt.
Hanging out at the zoo with the nephews

Doug's Family

Meet Rachel

I was born in Las Vegas, New Mexico to Tommy and Karla Rickner. My dad was in college and when he finished his degree a few months after I was born, we moved to Oklahoma City.

Rachel and her parents

I grew up in Yukon, Oklahoma, which is just outside of Oklahoma City. Since our house was in the country, I spent a lot of time with my brothers and sisters and a few neighbor kids. I am the oldest of 4 kids and my mom said I was her mini me, always looking after and taking care of my brothers and sister.

Rachel and her siblings, Robert, Rebekah, and Richard
My Grandparents played a huge part in my life. This is me with my Grandma and Grandpa Rickner

As I was growing up, I was involved in Girl Scouts and my mom was my troop leader. I stayed in Girl Scouts until I was in high school and earned several awards. When I was a sophomore in high school, I got to go on an acting trip sponsored by the Girl Scouts.

Rachel and her mom

Dogs were also always part of my family growing up. We would foster dogs for the humane society and so we usually had quite a few around our house. Several dogs found their forever home at our house!

Rachel and her first dog, Patches

When I was in middle school my love of music began. My parents saw that music spoke to my heart and put me in voice lessons. I spent most of my high school years singing and performing, earning several awards in music.

High School Graduation 1997

After graduating from high school, I went to the University of Central Oklahoma. While I was in college, I sang in operas and helped with musicals. I found that as much as I enjoyed performing on stage, my heart's desire was elsewhere. This is when I found that my true love was teaching children and helping to nurture their love of music. I earned my Bachelors of Music Education in 2002 and started teaching the fall of that same year. I have been teaching children of all ages for the last 15 years, but my favorite age group is middle school.

College Graduation

Rachel's Hobbies

My mom and my grandmother helped to foster a love of baking. I especially enjoy making cookies and cakes.

Of course most of my free time is spent doing something musical! I enjoy singing in church and directing musicals.

Rachel, Doug and all of the directors for the Sound of Music

I also enjoy gardening. We have several flower and veggie gardens around our house.

A garden in our backyard with Rachel's favorite flowers.
A little miniature garden.
Our plumeria tree

Whenever possible I love to spend time with my nieces and nephews.

Rachel and nephew Wyatt at a concert
Rachel and niece Jordyn
Rachel and nephew Aiden at the Rodeo.

Rachel's Family

Once in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tail...

Our Cinderella Story

Meeting each other during the musical Cinderella

Doug and Rachel met when Rachel was directing Cinderella the musical at the local theater. Doug stepped in to cover for an actor who was going on a mission trip. Even after the actor he was replacing returned to the show, Doug continued to act in the show. Every night, Rachel would do Doug's make-up and we would talk about our day. It wasn't until the next show that we did at the theater a few months later, that we started dating.

Doug was the trumpeter in the show! This is only a small stretch for him since he plays the trombone.
Love blooms in the theater!
The proposal

Doug proposed to Rachel during a gun fight at Boot Hill Museum. He worked it out that the entire cast of the show helped out with the proposal. Rachel had no idea what was going on. Doug even wrote a song and sang it as part of the proposal. It is the only proposal to ever occur at Boot Hill and is even in a book about the history of the museum.

And so the adventure begins...

We were married in Dodge City, KS on March 5, 2011.

Time Together

We love spending time together. We attend church together each week and love being involved in our small town community. We enjoy camping, spending time in our gardens, and working on our home.

Camping with Rachel's family in Ouray, Colorado
Hiking in Colorado
Starting another camping adventure.

Performing Arts

Most of our free time is spent in the performing arts. Rachel directs a couple of musicals each year for children and teenagers and Doug is always at her side helping out.

Rachel on closing night of Les Miserable with her students
Sound of Music 2017 Cast and Crew

We also enjoy acting and doing reenactments at Boot Hill.

Doug entertaining the audience with his magic tricks
Doug with his niece and nephew
Performing at the the Big Gunfight!

Our Traditions


Dressing up for Halloween
Doug and Aria ready to great trick or treaters.
Our puppies dressed up for Halloween. They love to go to trick or treating at our friends houses.
We enjoy decorating for Christmas. Every year we get an ornament for this tree to commemorate our year.
Our first Christmas

What Rachel Loves about Doug

Doug having a chat with our godson Samuel.

Doug is the most selfless person I know. He is always looking for a way to help others. Sometimes that is just making someone smile. Doug has a great sense of humor and there are a lot of times that he says something or does something to make me laugh! Doug is a natural father to our dogs. He always makes sure that they are very well taken care of and that they know they are loved. Doug is also incredible with kids-maybe because he is a big kid at heart! He is always making up fun fairy tails for our nieces, nephews, and god children. He loves spending time with the kids in our lives-even if it is the middle school and high school kids that we work with when performing musicals.

What Doug Loves about Rachel

Rachel and nephew Elliot being silly

I love Rachel for her heart and her strength. She puts the needs of others ahead of her own. I love that she treats the students she teaches as her own. She doesn't just teach them academic lessons, but she learns about them, laughs and even sometimes cries with them. She faces every challenge head on with strength and determination. I love the way she treats our puppies. She has a great sense of humor and is very crafty. Most of all, I love her soft heart towards me and the special quiet times we have alone talking, laughing, and sharing our dreams.

Our 4-legged Children

Our Family


Our Brown Eyed Girl

Rachel adopted Aria from the animal shelter before she met Doug. Rachel told Doug that if Aria didn't like him, he was out! Of course, for Aria and Doug it was love at first site. Aria is our little dog. She is a 9 year old chihuahua with a big heart. Her favorite activity is to snuggle and get loved on. She also loves squeaky plush toys. Aria is a mommy's girl and likes to take walks and rides in the car.

Aria snuggling in her favorite blanket.
Aria in her Halloween pajamas


Our sweet little teddy bear.

We adopted Daisy 3 years ago. Daisy had been abused when we got her, so we have worked with her to make her comfortable, help her to know that we love her and that she is in her forever home. We even had to teach her how to snuggle and now she is professional! Each night she gets in our bed and lays between our pillows to snuggle, that way she can sneak attack kisses to both of us. Daisy's number one goal in life is to be everyone's best friend. She is so full of love and gives lots of kisses. She is a daddy's girl and goes running with him every morning.

Daisy hates rain, but loves snow. As soon as you put her outside, she runs through the snow with her head down and eats the snow.
Daisy is ready for a snuggle.

Home Is Where the Heart Is

Our home is in a small quiet community. We have a playground and baseball field within two blocks of our house.
We have lot of space both inside and outside for all kinds of adventures. Especially hide and go seek!
Surround yourself with only those who are going to lift you higher.

Our support System

Our friends, Katie, Mat and Erik with their dogs.
Our friend Katie
Rachel and Kelly Knedler, Friend

A Letter from Rachel's Mom

We learned so much about family and unconditional love from our parents.

A letter from Doug's Dad

We are excited to welcome a new life into our home along with our family and friends. We hope you have caught a glimpse of who we are and the love we are ready to share. We cannot wait to get to know you and learn more about one another. We pray that God will guide you and direct your heart for what lies ahead for your child, and your hopes and dreams for your child's future.

Want to know more about us?

Contact Catholic Charities of Southwest Kansas at 620-792-1393.


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