Creek! The sound of a monster under your bed. His razor sharp claws screeching on your wooden floor. “Mom!” You scream. “There is a monster under my bed.” Your mom comes into the room and turns on the light.
“Honey, there are no monsters,” Mom reassures you, “it's just your squeaky fan.”
“But mom,” you cry for your last chance of protection. After the last lights goes out in your room again. Sweat trickles down your forehead. Your hands start to shake. You are alert /tense of any sudden movement. Fear. Isn’t it scary? How do you even overcome your fears?
What Are Frightening Fears?
First what is fear an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm? (dictionary.com) If you're like many kids you have gotten afraid before. Have you gotten afraid of a squeaky fan or a dark hallway in your summer camp? Now I’m getting the chills. What is fear? Well, fear is a common emotion. Jonathan Alpert - licensed psychotherapist - from the Huffington post states fear is connected to your negative bias. In other words known as the negative effect. This means your brain is like an evil glue stick that sticks his nose into all your feelings or thoughts etcetera. He is like a magnet even though you know what is right he is attracted to the opposite. This means your brain prefers to talking or thinking about the bad thoughts than the good thoughts.
What is a negative Bias?
An example of negative bias is, for example, if you were walking home from the school bus and you saw a kid punch your friend. Then you see a teenager help an old lady cross the road. Which incident are you going to tell your parents when you get home the negative one or the positive one? The negative one.
Why Do People Get Scared?
Why do people get scared? First, here are some fears according to, Jerry Steinfeld most studies show, people's number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you're better off in the casket than doing the eulogy. People usually get scared after a storytelling session or a chat about a bad encounter with something. Which might be real, might not. However after your brain understands and hears about this bad encounter your brain exaggerates - represent (something) as being larger, better, or worse than it really is - on this idea. (dictionary.com)
What is happening In your brain?
Since you don’t really know the end of this story your brain tries to develop his own narrative in your brain. About this topic for example. (dream) I just heard about a shark encounter and about how scary the sharks looks with their big teeth. But your dad is going to swim with sharks anyway. Then the minute this dream ends. Your brain writes it’s own narrative about what you heard/ dream/read but we still don’t know the ending so the brain attempts to write its own ending.
What Is A Negative Narrative?
Usually, there are two things wrong with this negative narrative in your brain. One it’s often not accurate. Two, the narrative is usually negative, and it’s these negative, thoughts that lead to catastrophic, worst-case scenarios and devastating thoughts, like your brain probably thought your dad is going to die. You can have smaller fears too and most of these fear are caused by uncertainty or trust. Also known as fear.