Amor whispers of the heart

By: Kathleen Joy D. Bulaqueña

"PDA or PD, GA?"

What is PDA?

What happens when you see people or students having PDA? Is it a good thing or a bad thing? If it ends up being a bad thing what can we do to lessen or avoid it?

Public Display Affection, in short PDA. Hugging, kissing, holding hands, touching and etc. that intends to touch each other physically. These are just some acts of physical intimacy of how couples show their love to each other in view of others.

Ateneo De Manila University is one of the known prestigious schools in the Philippines, it offers elementary and secondary education exclusively to males students only. But from SY 2016-2017 Ateneo has opened its doors for k-12 to offers Senior High School Program to students who are from outside Ateneo including GIRLS.

Girls of Gonzaga

Now what does this mean?

Since it is now a coed school well, for me we cannot avoid students from being “friendly” to each other whether they have the same gender or they have opposite gender. But, in some ways students from General Academic GA strand have gone way too “friendly”, there were lots of reports that students or should I say “lovers” were seen having PDA inside in the classroom they were seen hugging and holding hands together not to mention the names. As some of the teachers caught them, they were reported immediately to the APSAF. They tried to explain but those explanations were not enough to defend themselves because they violated some of the rules of the school.

Is PDA a good thing or a bad thing?

We all have different opinions about PDA, there’s no right and wrongs to it, but there are different thing that we need to consider or look up to, for me it’s wrong when you are not in the right age which is 18 above and also it’s wrong if it affects both person negatively in doing their responsibilities, if it makes them more motivated and inspired enough to do their responsibilities well then it is right. It depends on how they show and use it to apply it to their daily lives.

If it ends up being a bad thing what can we do to lessen or avoid it?

I know that the school has already implemented rules on how to lessen it or avoid it, but there’s only one thing that comes to my mind when I think about it. The teacher or moderator should monitor or check them up every recess and lunch breaks and even during the org sessions. By this, the possibility of them to pull a PDA can be lessen.

We all know that we care about each other but following the rules is one way around that should be exercised and practiced in order to prevent bad things and achieve a great purpose as one.

"And together we can see PDA as a good thing."
By: James Agpaoa

No means NO!

Rejections

Rejections are the most common emotional wound we sustain in daily life. Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of our immediate social circle or dating pools. Today, thanks to electronic communications, social media platforms and dating apps, each of us is connected to thousands of people, any of whom might ignore our posts, chats, texts, or dating profiles, and leave us feeling rejected as a result.

There have been cases where some students were rejected by their “crushes” in the GA strand. These students who were rejected have felt like their hearts had been crushed into tiny little pieces. Also, some students felt that they were betrayed of what they heard from “him or her”. Rejections often leaves a scar on our hearts since the one we want to confess our love to, prompose to, and etc. rejected us in a way that we are hurting emotionally. In addition to these kinds rejections, we are still vulnerable to serious and more devastating rejections as well. When our spouse leaves us, when we get fired from our jobs, snubbed by our friends, or ostracized by our families and communities for our lifestyle choices, the pain we feel can be absolutely paralyzing.

Whether the rejection we experience is large or small, one thing remains constant, it always hurts, and it usually hurts more than we expect it to. The only way to guarantee you’ll never be rejected is to never try to do anything and to never interact with anyone else, ever. That’s no way to live, though, so at some point, you will experience rejection in your life. Common situations for rejection include love, studies, work, sports, or business. I myself experience these rejections in my life. You don’t have to let rejection destroy you, however! Overcoming rejection isn't about denying or pretending everything is fine. It's about learning to cope well and move on with living.

These are the ways on how to cope well and move on when you are rejected by someone:

1. Understand that your pain is normal.

Feeling hurt after rejection is a normal human response with both emotional and physiological causes. Research has shown that experiencing unexpected rejection actually causes physical symptoms: emotional pain activates the same neurons in your brain as physical pain does.

2. Express your feelings.

Expressing your emotions will help you accept that you’re going through something painful. Rejection can create intense feelings of disappointment, abandonment, and loss, and you will probably have an initial grieving period to deal with not getting what you had hoped for.

3. Avoid lashing out at others.

Because rejection hurts, some individuals react to the pain it causes by becoming angry and/or lashing out at others. This response can be a way to try to reassert control or demand that others pay attention to them. However, this response can actually cause further rejection and isolation, so while it’s tempting to get angry and aggressive after you’re rejected, try not to.

4. Hang out with your friends.

Feeling a loss of connection is one of the big side-effects of rejection. Connect with people who love and support you. Research has shown that having fun, healthy interactions with people you enjoy can boost your body’s recovery systems. Experiencing emotional acceptance from your friends and family can help you overcome the pain of feeling rejected.

5. Have fun.

Distract yourself from the painful thoughts and find ways to involve yourself in things that help you to feel good. Watch funny shows, listen to parody podcasts, or go to see comedies at the cinema. While having fun won’t immediately mend your broken heart, it will help reduce your feelings of anger and increase your positive emotions.

By: Macky Tan

Losing the lead

Heartbreak

One way or another, we will all face it. We can’t avoid it. Our hearts can be broken in different ways. For example, a relative passes away, you could be a Warriors fan and you watched them blow a 3-1 lead in the 2016 NBA Finals despite having the unanimous MVP and having 73 wins in the regular season, or your significant other broke up with you.

Breakups happen for different reasons. It may be because cheating was involved, or maybe a huge disagreement occurred. Anything can happen that can lead to a breakup, even the smallest, tiniest, miniscule, and pettiest reason. What it’s like being heartbroken can vary for different people. Most people who get their hearts broken will feel miserable. Obviously breakups hurt, and the pain felt can lead to either excessive eating or loss of appetite. It can also lead to moodiness. One moment one may feel calm then the next they can become angry. One can also detach themselves from their friends and family, preferring to be alone. The most noticeable effect of it however is obviously depression and anxiety. Crying, hyperventilating, suicidal thoughts and attempts, self-harm, and low self-esteem can be expected from a heartbroken individual.

Dealing with it

Dealing with the pain of a breakup can be one of the most difficult things one can do. However, there are ways to help deal with it:

1. Get your mind off it.

The more you think about it, the longer you’re going to have to deal with the pain. Find a hobby to occupy your time or better yet, focus on your studies.

2. Talk with your family and your friends.

They can give you great advice and emotional support. For some, telling them what happened can help relieve the tension they have in their chest.

3. Cry.

You don’t have to force yourself to, but when you feel like crying, go ahead. Do not feel ashamed of it. Crying is a normal reaction and there is nothing wrong with it.

4. Meet new people.

Meeting different people will help expand your social circle and interact with more interesting people. Who knows, maybe you can find your next one as well.

5. Go out with friends

You may not be in the mood to do it, but going out helps a lot. It will give you something to smile about and it’s better that locking yourself in your room for the whole day.

6. pray

There’s nothing better to do than pray. Have faith that God will guide you as you go through rough times and that he will lead you to something and someone better.

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."- Alfred Lord Tennyson

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