Losing the lead
One way or another, we will all face it. We can’t avoid it. Our hearts can be broken in different ways. For example, a relative passes away, you could be a Warriors fan and you watched them blow a 3-1 lead in the 2016 NBA Finals despite having the unanimous MVP and having 73 wins in the regular season, or your significant other broke up with you.
Breakups happen for different reasons. It may be because cheating was involved, or maybe a huge disagreement occurred. Anything can happen that can lead to a breakup, even the smallest, tiniest, miniscule, and pettiest reason. What it’s like being heartbroken can vary for different people. Most people who get their hearts broken will feel miserable. Obviously breakups hurt, and the pain felt can lead to either excessive eating or loss of appetite. It can also lead to moodiness. One moment one may feel calm then the next they can become angry. One can also detach themselves from their friends and family, preferring to be alone. The most noticeable effect of it however is obviously depression and anxiety. Crying, hyperventilating, suicidal thoughts and attempts, self-harm, and low self-esteem can be expected from a heartbroken individual.
Dealing with it
Dealing with the pain of a breakup can be one of the most difficult things one can do. However, there are ways to help deal with it:
1. Get your mind off it.
The more you think about it, the longer you’re going to have to deal with the pain. Find a hobby to occupy your time or better yet, focus on your studies.
2. Talk with your family and your friends.
They can give you great advice and emotional support. For some, telling them what happened can help relieve the tension they have in their chest.
You don’t have to force yourself to, but when you feel like crying, go ahead. Do not feel ashamed of it. Crying is a normal reaction and there is nothing wrong with it.
4. Meet new people.
Meeting different people will help expand your social circle and interact with more interesting people. Who knows, maybe you can find your next one as well.
5. Go out with friends
You may not be in the mood to do it, but going out helps a lot. It will give you something to smile about and it’s better that locking yourself in your room for the whole day.
There’s nothing better to do than pray. Have faith that God will guide you as you go through rough times and that he will lead you to something and someone better.