The most powerful forces in your life are the friends, acquaintances and life partnerships you develop.
It is inevitable that we will damage them in some way, either by our actions or inactions.
If not mended or reconciled properly the fallout can be dramatic. People usually believe a simple "I'm sorry is enough.
I'm sorry is Not Enough
If not resolved properly small slights can fester into life long battles. Partnerships that were assets become risks to your happiness
Close relationships once lost in this way are irrevocably harmed, never to be the same again.
There are financial costs, lost opportunities and even legal costs
Harm done to the young can't easily be undone -
The effects can be life long
ALL BECAUSE.
----EVEN WITH THE BEST OF INTENTIONS, YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE IT RIGHT
The way forward is SEAM
Rescue Relationships
Regain Trust
Deepen Friendships
SEAM 1# sorrow
Honest statement of sorrow /regret
SEAM 2# empathy
Display of deep empathy
SEAM 3# amends
Amends: making it right again.
SEAM 4# Management: making sure there are no repeats
Final words
Sincere statement of regret
Empathise know the hurt you have caused
Amends, try to make it right somehow
Manage your behaviour so a repeat is not possible
Remember that reconciliation works when both parties are ready. You may need to repeat SEAM many times. It may be necessary to demonstrate your sincerity in a way that supports you words
Damian Burns - 2016
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