Definition: The Inner Guide offers an objective and wise perspective about ourselves and others. Our Inner Guides tell us the absolute truth (as best we can know it at that moment), allowing us to be more fully conscious of the world, other people, and especially ourselves.
Identify: A few hours ago, I received my psychology test grade back and got a 73. However, luckily it got curved to a 79. I studied fairly hard for this test and got a tutor ahead of time to begin explaining the concepts so that I could understand and study. I even made a quizlet with flashcards, which is far more effort than I put into any test the first semester. Instead of getting defensive and angry about my grade when I received it, my inner guide kicked in and I said to myself, "Wow Charlotte I'm so proud of you. You actually worked really hard on this and this is the highest grade in a real class you have gotten at Clemson so far. Now that you know what her tests are like, you can study harder next time and make an even better grade next time!". This enabled me to be calm and instead of getting angry or upset, I was actually very satisfied and was put in a good mood for the rest of my day.
Don't Revise: Instead of being hard on myself and causing myself to be put in a bad mood for the rest of the day, my inner guide enabled me to have hope for the future. I remained calm and satisfied with my work, and I was able to have hope in getting an even better grade next time while knowing my past mistakes and how to fix them.
Part 2: Reflect: Honestly, after conducting this self-expirement I noticed that my true "default setting" is the Inner Critic. Pretty much other than the time I previously wrote about when my inner guide kicked in, every other experience was my inner critic. I am typically a very pessimistic person and not only is that just my personality, but also I am pessimistic so that I am not let down when I fail. It sounds pretty sad but if you expect the worst and get the worst, you are not sad. However, if you expect the worst and get better, you have a reason to be happy. Therefore I correct and critique myself so that in the future I can try to do better and will not be hurt by the outcome. Although this can help sometimes, I definitely want to change my "default setting" from Inner Critic, solely because being pessimistic and constantly critiquing yourself is not always healthy. After conducting the Inner Guide experiment, I have noticed that having an Inner Guide attitude puts you in a glorious, calm mood, and gives you hope for the future. In order to shift my Inner Critic to an Inner Guide, I will begin by stopping and analyzing my thought process after every situation. I will catch myself when I am thinking as an Inner Critic and reflect on how I could change my thinking to an Inner Guide in that situation. Hopefully, thinking as an Inner Guide will enable me to be successful this semester and even in the long run.