Even though you don’t think about it, a definition of a true friendship really does exist. In Todd May’s essay “Friendship in an Age of Economics” it discusses the three types of friendships. These beliefs come from the Greek philosopher Aristotle and they’re known as true friendships, pleasure friendships, and usefulness friendships. Todd May believes that true friendship is what allows us to see ourselves from the perspective of another, they open up new interests or deepen ones, and they offer us support during difficult periods in our lives. True friendships are not just for pleasure or to get things in return. He states, “Friendships worthy of the name are different. Their rhythm lies not in what they bring to us, but rather in what we immerse ourselves in. To be a friend is to step into the stream of another’s life. It is, while not neglecting my own life, to take pleasure in another’s pleasure, and to share their pain as partly my own.” This quote explains his belief in what a true friendship is and not what it is. True friendship is to share thoughts and feelings with each other on a deeper level.
However, when it comes to my definition of true friendship, it slightly differs from his. Instead of just partaking in sharing yourself's, it’s more about building yourself by the use of one another. In my eyes, friends should make each better to meet their goals. In order to do this, you’ll have to motivate each other and encourage each other to be the best they possibly can. I feel as if he is wrong when he says that true friendship is not what they bring to us. Like I stated earlier, friends are supposed to benefit off one another by pushing each other to their limit. This does nothing but good, because they're nothing wrong with pushing your true friend to chase his or her dreams.
Of Mice and Men
Lennie and George from the book Of Mice and Men demonstrates my idea of a true friendship. In agreement with Todd May, he states how true friends offer support during difficult times in our lives. This is directly displayed in the book, for example, George took in Lennie at a young age when his aunt, his caretaker, passed away. This illustrates his true friendship and love for Lennie. He could’ve easily just left Lennie on his own, however he did not. Also, Lennie is developmentally delayed and George still decided to stick by Lennie’s side through all the ups and downs they’ve had like a true friend. George refuses to let him go off on his own. In a nutshell, George and Lennie are inseparable.