Surprise! You're an Adult... By Melodie Lariviere

I use to cry when I was a kid because all I wanted to be was a grown up. I was never aware of all the responsibility and change that comes with it. I use to want to be an adult because as a kid I saw all the things my mom and dad could do that I wasn’t allowed to. They could stay up until whenever they felt. They ate what they wanted when they did. When we went shopping what we got was up to them, they could buy anything they wanted. They had cars. They were smart. I wanted that. I thought that was a grown up. Oh my god was I wrong.

Only 20 years old and it’s all hitting me hard. In my second year of college, still living at home and it’s still so stressful. I have a part time job at a gift shop that I get paid twelve dollars an hour leaving me with usually around 300 dollars every 2 weeks. It's gotten to the point where I'm considering another job. I hardly have money for anything after groceries, saving for tuition, gas and my phone bill. On top of college and that job; I babysit every other weekend, have my parents on my butt about chores and caring for my boyfriend and two cats.

I get up at 7 a.m. go to school, get home from school, start my work that’s due in the week, make dinner, feed the family, chores, finish my work, sleep. Wake up do it all over but then throw in some covering stories for school and working. There’s no wonder I have at least 3 to 5 coffees every morning and around 2 in the evening and still end up sleeping in some days.

I'm not the only one I know that feels this way. The amount of times someone in my class complains about being an adult or they wished they were taught certain topics in high school, it gets repetitive.

Neither Elementary nor High school prepared me for what was beyond their doors. I remember in Grade 11 I was taught in math about rent and mortgages but it was a week’s lesson and we moved on. I felt so inexperienced when my boyfriend and I were talking about apartments and I had no idea what I had to do. I feel as if I didn’t have my parents to help me understand what’s expected from me as an adult I wouldn’t be where I am. My dad quizzes me on my car and nine out of ten times I don't know what he's even talking about.

I don’t have the basic skills to have my own life. If my car breaks down, hope I have AAA. Change a tire? Nope.

I don’t even have it as bad as other college students, luckily I don’t have debts or rent to pay I could only imagine how stressful it can be. I see this picture online all the time about what schools should teach us about life. But why don’t they? I get we need an education to get a job but what about everything outside of the job, we need to know that stuff too.

Photos from: Whisper (left), (right)

I was just thrown into the "adulting" life and I’m just fighting my way through it until I figure it out.

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