Identifying My Inner Voices
Inner critic- "I'm not good at it, that why I can't do it"
Inner Critic: Our inner critic conducts constant self-criticism to prepare us for potential outside criticism. The inner critic inside of us judges, blames, complains, and demeans us to help us avoid possible punishment and avoid being uncomfortable.
My Inner Critic Experience: In the past, I have definitely been my worst critic. I have blamed myself, complained about myself, and demeaned myself over my failures. I would be so hard on myself that I would hold myself back from doing certain things because I was so afraid of failure and the scrutiny that would come with it. Last semester, I failed my first statistics test and I was really hard on myself and I kept telling myself that I was going to keep failing tests. I continued to be my worst critic and I ended up failing my statistics course. At first sign of failure, I started to wonder if I was smart enough to make it at Clemson. I kept telling myself that I was not good/smart enough and eventually I began to believe it.
Revision to Inner Guide: In the future, when I experience failure I need to block out my inner critic as much as possible and I need to channel my inner guide. Channeling my inner guide will allow me to think more positively and move in the right direction of doing better the next time. Instead of telling myself that I am not good enough, I can tell myself that I am good enough and I will be successful if I put in the hard work necessary.
Inner defender- "I would've made an A if my professor could speak english!"
Inner Defender: Our inner defender is more about judging others with the intention of fending off criticism and punishment from powerful others. This voice comes from a scared and confused mindset.
My Inner Defender Experience: I have experienced the inner defender voice before by blaming my professors and blaming certain people in my personal life for my failures. I would tell myself that I was not at fault but the people around me were keeping me from being successful. I would use this mechanism to make myself feel better about not putting in the proper effort to be successful. A couple of semesters ago, for my statistics class I had a grad student that wasn't the best at teaching the curriculum. He was very knowledgable on the subject of statistics, but I thought he was horrible when it came to teaching it to my class. I was failing the course and my inner defender kicked in and I convinced myself that it was my teacher's fault for my failures. I told myself that his shortcoming's in teaching were holding me back from being successful when in fact I was not putting in the proper effort to succeed.
Revision to Inner Guide: Regardless of how bad a professor can be at teaching, I can never let that keep me from being successful again. I will have to change my mindset and channel my inner guide if this situation arises again. I will have to tell myself that nothing is going to keep me from being successful in this class. I will think more clearly and I will find tutors and study groups that can fill the void of having a lackluster professor. My inner guide will remind me that I am in control of my own success and nobody is going to keep me from accomplishing my goals.