The next few years were full of change. Their home life, family dynamic, and schooling methods were all being adjusted as they tried to make sense of their new reality. One of the biggest changes for Riddell was that all of her time was now being focused on Wesley. Her days used to be filled to the brim with work, PTA meetings, household chores, and other miscellaneous activities. Now, her center of attention, at all times, was Wesleys growth and development. This was particularly difficult for Riddell, because maintaining a sense of control over some aspects of her life helped her self esteem.
"I couldn't control the issues in my marriage really, because it wasn't just me. I couldn't control a diagnosis or what I didn't know with my child. I couldn't control the dynamics of my household when there were so many variables, but I could control, and perfect, what I was doing on the professional side," said Riddell. That safety net was gone and she was forced to adjust without any room for compromise.